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I Am In a Taken In Hand Relationship

Now He Feels Bad?

By: Angryletter
Written on January 24th, 2013
Age: 18-21 , Female
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  • Angryletter

    Thank you silencedshy. I do try to make him feel better about it and his concern for me reliefs me. I am just a bit afraid that he will think I like it when he is mean to me or something or that I don't appreciate his kindness but I do...

    What is HoH by the way?

    Jan 25
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    • silencedshy

      Head of household

      Jan 25
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    • silencedshy

      Explain that you don't like him being mean. You Luke the dominance he shows and you want his leadership. That is how I explained it. I sent my husband lots of emails so he could understand better.

      Jan 25
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    • Angryletter

      Thanks : ). I sent him many emails too. I felt bad at first, because he isn't a very difficult man. He likes thinks simple. Luckily he understands almost everything. When he started to take control though he really got a little mean and sadistic, but after a while he saw that that kind of behavior hurt me and that I didn't like that and then he got a bit too soft again. Now I got a spanking and he seemed to take control in the good way finally but I think that he is afraid to hurt me again cause I'm a sensitive girl I guess.

      Anyway I shouldn't complain cause he's very sweet... He left on a trip yesterday and before he went he told me to 'be good' and went through a list of things that I wasn't supposed to do in his absence (such as smoking and drinking). So I guess he is getting back on track.

      I'm glad that everything worked out for you guys! I think men understand a lot more than women often assume. They just don't always know how to express it.

      Jan 25
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    • Angryletter

      Thanks for clearing up the HoH thing. I thought it mean Husband of Honor but then i wasn't sure, haha.

      Jan 25
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    • silencedshy

      Lol no problem. Yea I couldn't stress to my hubby enough with our first initial talk that im more interested in the connection and him being himself a sweet dom. I do enjoy spanking so idk how ill handle a punishment. This lifestyle takes some couple years to get a hang of (so I read). Good luck with everything. Including following ur rules and lists while he's away. That's hard.

      Jan 25
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  • silencedshy

    Maybe try to plan around the outings? He may have felt better if the setting was different. He could have done it after the dinner for instance. I think That maybe its just a feeling that he needs to adjust to. No man really enjoys the punishment persay its the result he needs to consintrate on. He just has to keep telling himself that this is what you want and ur ok.with it. This is really the answer for a HOG to answer. My husband gave me a sore bum for 3-4a days once and was really upset by the look of it. (Before TIH and I just wanted him to do it) but once he knew I kinda liked it as it was a reminder and even warmed my heart he seemed ok after that. (Or just never said anything more about it). Good luck with everything. Were just starting out as well and were trying to look at it as trial and error and just move on.

    Jan 24
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    • silencedshy

      Oh dear my auto correct messes up. HOH. NOT HOG. Sorry

      Jan 24
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    • silencedshy

      Hahahhahaha

      Mar 4
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