I'm Just Not Happy Anymore....

I don't think I want to be married anymore. There, I said it. I also cheated on my husband, and I don't feel guilty. There, I said that, too. I've been with my husband for 10 years, married for 3. The worst part is, he's a good man. Truly. I just don't think I'm in love, anymore. Everything was great, for the first eight years of our relationship. Then, he lost his job. Long story short, he fell apart, while I tried to hold everything together. Our finances, our relationship, everything. I tried to be supportive, I tried tough love, I threatened to leave, nothing helped. I kept telling myself that once he was working again, things would be ok. Except now, they aren't. I really don't know what happened. I have a successful carrer, doing a job that I love. I have hobbies and passions that I enjoy. He just doesn't seem to have anything except a dead end job, a couch, and a passion for ESPN and fantasy football. Over the past few years, either I've changed, or we both have. Whatever the case, I just don't feel fulfilled at home anymore. My indescresion was an innocent one (as much as one can be when you're married.) I thought I would feel awful. Instead, I can't stop thinking about the fact that I realize now there are other men out there who want to talk about politics, and religion, and things that actually mean something in this world. And the worst part is, I know I should just leave. But I can't. Like I said, my husband is a GOOD person, who would do anything for anyone. And I can't bear to break his heart.
Betty9 Betty9
26-30
5 Responses Sep 14, 2012

Fairly the same here we share no interest or go anywhere all I hear is how tired and sore he is and I feel I give n give...I don,t even hv enthusiasm anymore! Oh well oneday I will overcome it all and all my sacrifices wll pay off and I can start living again! I hope the same for you.

Yup. I know. Same thing. Only husband successful but nothing in common other than we r married. I think why stay???

I think that it would be only fair to him in yourself if you would leave. you don't have to do it harshly but just let him know that you believe it's time you move on. or if you really don't want to leave him pray about it and ask God to give you some love for him that you have before.

I think that it would be only fair to him in yourself if you would leave. you don't have to do it harshly but just let him know that you believe it's time you move on. or if you really don't want to leave him pray about it and ask God to give you some love for him that you have before.

Certainly a difficult situation. You do not love him, and he is a good man. The struggle between harm and happiness.