A Good Old Fashioned Spanking At The Hand Of Their Husband Is What Most Women NeedMy husband and I have been married for just over 10 years. I was never spanked as a child but remember being threatened with spanking a couple of times. The treat was enough for me to moderate my behavior.
I am a glorious, enthusiastic woman, in some ways a of a handful. That is part of what my husband likes about me. I am the life an soul of a party. I enjoy laughing and am thought of as funny. I am quick witted and I do have a quick temper. I am enthusiastic in all things, arguments included. I lack self discipline.
My husband is kind, gentle, funny, and seems to adore me. I do drive him round the bend sometimes and I know it.
We'd been married about 9 months, we did not yet have any children and we lived in London. On the night my husband gave me my first ever spanking, I did not see it coming. I can't remember what we argued about. I was snappy. I like a dog with a bone, and just wouldn't let it rest, whatever it was! I could see him getting frustrated as I kept coming back at him, proving my point, complicating a pointless argument. I'm not sure what outcome I wanted or expected... I just wanted to be right as always, to have the last word even though I may not have been right at all.
While I was in mid flow, he yelled "Right..." and grabbed my wrist. He pulled me firmly behind him as he walked ahead towards the kitchen table. He sat heavily on a high backed chair and yanked me across his knee. Before I could really take it in he flicked up my skirt and pulled down my knickers, holding me firmly with his other arm across my back. He brought his hand down hard and fast on my bare bottom and I remember the shock... then again, this time it stung, then again, now it really smarted and I tried to protect my exposed bottom with my hand, but he grabbed my arm and pinned it down before bringing his hand down again and again and again. I was wriggling and squealing. "If you don't stay still I'll get a wooden spoon" he said, and again he brought his hand thundering down onto my bare bottom 5 or 6 more times.
After his final blow, he stood up, still holding my arm and pulling ,me up too.
"Good, well that shut you us didn't it" he said. I opened my mouth as if to restart the argument, but he stopped me, saying " Uhh! I wouldn't if I were you, unless you want another spanking. Now pull your pants up and go and have a shower." I didn't know what to say, so I obeyed him... probably for the first time in my life!
Well, what a revelation that was. The argument was over. He wasn't cross with me, and I felt amazing. my bottom was red and sore and I had a tear stained face but it was over now and I'd been stopped in my tracks, by the man who I loved. He'd overpowered me when I was in full flow and stopped a pointless and frustrating argument in it's tracks. I had not enjoyed the pain but found the memory of his determination to overpower me, the strength to physically restrain me, his lack of hesitation and his firmness in his ob
After 10 years this is a wonderful element to our relationship. I rarely get a spanking, but somewhere in the back of my mind, I know he could, and he would spank me if he felt the need. That in itself is powerful.
Occasionally he'll say something, " I'll put you over my knee..." or " Your heading for a smacked bottom". That is usually enough to stop me in my tracks, blushing; but every so often, I get a spanking. One Valentines day I bought him a paddle. I'd never asked for a spanking, I think I just wanted to reassure him that this was OK with me. He has only used it once, about 2 years after i bought it... but I know it is there, and I know he might use it, and now I know how much it hurts. "I'll get the paddle down" is a very effective threat!
Furthermore, I don't think this is weird. I think for generations this was normal. Not beating, but the occasional spanking. Women fight with words and men get frustrated. Now and again they snap, and a smacked bottom seems like a logical and harmless way to express his frustration and exert his own opposition! I'm sure this is why women have rounder more spankable bottoms. For hundreds of years, men spanked their wives bottoms without it being hidden. It was in the mainstream movies all the time in before the 1970's and never thought of as sexy or kinky. Before that it was in drawings, cartoons and pamphlets - all mainstream. John Wayne, Cary Grant, Clark gable, Howard Keele, were always threatening or giving some leading lady or other a spanking. Spanking was in Musicals, in Plays, in books like gone with the wind.
Spanking itself usually has the added bonus that after the event, a woman finds the memory of it and the knowledge it could happen again tremendously arousing. I think this is by and large a biological norm and the fact we've denied it because it doesn't fit our feminist ideal doesn't make it less true! Most women are hard wired to seek out a strong man and a spanking reinforces the fact she's found one! You can be a barrister or a housewife, a banker or a teacher, a doctor or a waitress, if the man you love smacks your bottom, it makes you blush.
Men are not brighter than woman and no longer are they better educated or more worldly wise, but physically they are stronger and that is a natural fact of life. Is it so unnatural that when they show their strength, in a way that is not damaging to a grown woman, ( in case you need reassurance of this, remember that children were spanked on the bottom until very recently because a normal, firm spanking is not damaging - my God we even hit them with sticks and belts! Much more traumatic for a tiny, innocent child than a grown up woman surely ) that the woman find it somehow pleasing that her man has done this to her? That is why '50 shades of grey' is an international bestseller... not because of it's literary value, but because most women would benefit in many ways from the occasional good old fashioned spanking at the hand of the man they love, they know it and many want it but have been made to feel that they shouldn't.