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Our 29 Year Age Difference!

Hello, I am 21 and my boyfriend is 50. We were friends for a couple years before we got together, we have been together 3 amazing years and he's my best friend and the most wonderful boyfriend! We have a lot in common believe it or not, we want the same things out of life like get married and have kids! Some of my friends ask me how I deal with the age difference and the truth is I never really realized it and I can just look past all the judging looks and stares because we have the same relationship as any one else we just have that "mathematical" difference. We get along great, my family loves him and his family loves me and yes we have our problems but what relationship doesn't?

Our relationship is strong and stable enough to push through the hard times we just know how to cheer each other up and have fun and sometimes act like kids, but we do know how to be serious as well. We completely trust each other and love each other very much.
R3DN3KGAL R3DN3KGAL 18-21, F 10 Responses Oct 5, 2012

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Well a little update on this story..we got engaged! :)

I am 26 and dating a guy who is 55. I really like him. He is a therapist and so emotionally mature and kind. The one issue that comes up is a social one. Its just akward to go to a party with all my friends in my age range and then there he is, looking sort of dorky (because he doesn't care about fashion that much) and out of place.

He also already has children, and has had a vasechtomy, so I know we can't make children together. Can I ever meet his children? Wouldn't they scoff at such a young woman?

I don't know, but I am having doubts that it could ever last.

I think it could last and vasectomies can be reversed, and meeting the kids is a big step in any relationship so take your time with that one and they probably are going to scoff a little but let them get to know you these things are going to take time and work.

I can relate with your 29 year age gap. I am 23 and he is 52 . We're lovers for 2 years already. We started when i was 21 and he is 50. I love him so much! We love each other. Thanks for your inspiring story!

if the love is true...age is just a number...

My boyfriend and I have the same age difference, I am 21 and he is 50...age has never been a problem for us and we have been together for almost two years. We always have fun together, we like the same music/movies, we have the same sense of humor, and when I am with him I never think about the age difference. My friends are supportive of our relationship...they initially questioned my feelings for him, but they are happy that I am happy, and once they got to know him they were able to understand our relationship. However, an age difference relationship does come with its own struggles...but I dont focus on them. :) It's nice to read about other age difference relationships that are so similar to my own

My boyfriend and I have the same age gap we are really attracted to each other and we are both in love. Our relationship is a long distance one. I'm really happy that there are people like me I felt excited. I hope for you the good luck together from the bottom of my hear.

Thank you so much! We are the same way but luckily we dont have the long distance but I hope for the best of luck to you and your man!! :)

I am in the exact same thing. Except my family don't understand. Im about to turn 19 and my partner is just turned 47. He helped me get out of a controlling relatinship and we are best friends. We are perfect for each other and just wish my family would be happy for me! I'm glad im not the only person to have this, makes me sure that things will be great :) thanks

No problem sugar! It took my family almost year and a half to finally understand and be ok with it and we also live in a very small town and not everybody in town understands or likes it but we dont care. We even go to a small church and they just love us and are wanting us to get married! Stay strong and good luck to ya both!

I am not sure what type of family you come from but since you are a woman and are young I am sure that plays a role in how your parents or family view your relationship. I am the youngest female out of three children and at 22 my parents still feel like I have the decision making skills of a 6 year old. Things have gotten better when I turned 21. You have to prove it to them that you are capable! 19 is pretty young but I had 30 year old friends both male and female at that age which says a lot about competence and maturity I think. Keep your head up!

Thank you :) We've been together for 6 months now and are planning marrage and kids soon. His daughter, (who is a year older than me!), accepts us and is happy for us. Just goes to show that soul mates do exist!

Also, (Im Karen79x by the way, just new profile), I have the mental age of a 30 year old at least, so its not like im like most 19 years! lol

I'm 19 and my partner is 48. We have a really similar story to yours. I told my parents and was thrown out of my house, so he and I are now living together. It's definitely been a struggle, but I'm happier than I've ever been. I've had a less than perfect past (especially in regards to past relationships), but so has he. And we have so much more in common than people understand. I don't think my family will ever come around. I really don't. But he and I are working through those things together. He and I talked about getting married a while ago. We are still engaged but decided to hold off on the immediate wedding just because there doesn't need to be a rush. I think for me, even though I want to spend the rest of my life with this man, I would've been rushing into marriage to prove something to all the people who don't approve of us. And that's no way to start out our life together. I think one of the things that has been the hardest for me is feeling like he and I are on totally different timelines. He is ready for marriage and kids and travel and all of those things. I love him more than anything, but I'm still in my undergrad, and I'm having a hard time merging our two "tracks" together. But I also don't want to give up and walk away from the love of my life. It's really encouraging to see that other people have made age differences work. It can be really discouraging when everyone else sets out to make you feel like you're doing something wrong. But when you're of legal age, age is truly just a number!

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This really was what i wanted to see. I have a partner the same age as you and i myself am 49. She is the most amazing person. I feel like i was meant to be with her. We to have a lot in common and just get along so well. When asked about the age difference we just say age is a number. You dont see your partners age, you just see them, the person you love

It is so true! I'm happy you found happiness and the person you believe that your meant to be with. I believe that me and him are meant to be together. People say that we couldn't possibly have anything in common but we do a lot actually. Good luck with your relationship!

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Oh my goodness, that's great.. I hope you will both be happier and happier. I always in a age-gap relationship so when a girl who is at a close age with me lives this situations i be so happy :)