I Am In An Age Gap Relationship
Me and my boyfriend are in a long distance relationship for 2 years we are international couple, also we have 29 years gap, now hes 49 and im 20(we still haven't met in person yet). We met online. In the begining of our relationship I wasn't honest about my age I told him that im 21 yrs old while I was actually 18(now im 20). I wasn't serious in the begining of our relationship and that's why I was lying about my age also I don't usually tell my real age when I talk to people online. Later, we got very close to each other as talking a lot everyday and spending time on skype ...etc, we have devleoped feelings and now we are both in love, I love him a lot and he does the same he is my first love.
However since I started to have felings for him I felt and still feel very guilty that I lied about my age to him. I think about this problem everyday and how to tell him the truth. He had some suspecious about my age but I denied that and told him "no im 21" I was afraid that he would leave me I was also afraid that I might hurt his feelings, I didn't know what to do. Right now i'm tired of lying about this I really want to tell him but now hes going through a lot of problems with his work and hes very stressed, so I have to wait until hes done with them, the problem is I don't know when those problems will finish hes been having a lot of issues one after another sometimes I think I will have to wait a longer time until hes done with those issues.
We have been through a lot, I hurt him badly before but he forgave me many times, I also forgive him too.
And there is something that which is making me worry, that is he has 2 daughters one of them is 2 years younger than me and the other one is the in the same age as my youngest sister, I was thinking if this could be an issue to him if I tell him about my real age and he will think that he is dating a girl whos 2 years older than his daughter but even if I was 21 or 23 I would be 4-5 years older than his daughter and its not a big difference so I think its the same. This is really confusing me as I overthink everything. In addition in my country we follow a different calendar than the Western one, our country calendar makes me 7 months older than in the Western calendar so when I met him I was 18 in my country calendar but I was 17 and 8 months in the Western calendar, So I dont know its a cinfusing matter.
As you see its very complicated or maybe im making it like this I just need some advices from you guys.
Can you help me?
Sorry for the long story I just wanted to make everything clear.
However since I started to have felings for him I felt and still feel very guilty that I lied about my age to him. I think about this problem everyday and how to tell him the truth. He had some suspecious about my age but I denied that and told him "no im 21" I was afraid that he would leave me I was also afraid that I might hurt his feelings, I didn't know what to do. Right now i'm tired of lying about this I really want to tell him but now hes going through a lot of problems with his work and hes very stressed, so I have to wait until hes done with them, the problem is I don't know when those problems will finish hes been having a lot of issues one after another sometimes I think I will have to wait a longer time until hes done with those issues.
We have been through a lot, I hurt him badly before but he forgave me many times, I also forgive him too.
And there is something that which is making me worry, that is he has 2 daughters one of them is 2 years younger than me and the other one is the in the same age as my youngest sister, I was thinking if this could be an issue to him if I tell him about my real age and he will think that he is dating a girl whos 2 years older than his daughter but even if I was 21 or 23 I would be 4-5 years older than his daughter and its not a big difference so I think its the same. This is really confusing me as I overthink everything. In addition in my country we follow a different calendar than the Western one, our country calendar makes me 7 months older than in the Western calendar so when I met him I was 18 in my country calendar but I was 17 and 8 months in the Western calendar, So I dont know its a cinfusing matter.
As you see its very complicated or maybe im making it like this I just need some advices from you guys.
Can you help me?
Sorry for the long story I just wanted to make everything clear.
By:
Gady222
Age:
18-21
,
Female
