Almost Sexless Marriage ParametersLike everyone else I've read that 10 times or less a year is considered sexless. Now what parameters do you give Almost Sexless?
The easy answer would to simply give a different number such 10-20 times a year. But I think "Almost sexless" is comprised of marriages with many more variables and can unfortunately be comprised of so many couples today. Maybe the way to go is remove anyone that says they are good with their sex lives no matter the frequency. That leaves everyone who is "Unhappy" with their sexual well being.
The second step is remove all people who are having lots of sex. Lets' say twice a week. No matter what they aren't in a sexless marriage by anyone's calculation in my book. That leaves everyone else that is having less sex than they desire and somewhere between 11 and 52 times a year. Remember I already excluded those who are happy.
The real problem occurs when either spouse's sex drive is out of sync with the other. One is always frustrated, feeling rejected while the other feels pressured and thinks their spouse is only interested in sex. It's such a classic case that it's the number reason couples go to counseling. 60% I've read. It may be hidden beneath other problems but usually surfaces as the main underlying cause. Almost by default the spouse with the lower sex drive controls the frequency.
The worst aspect is that this situation builds resentment of both partners. This resentment causes all the problems. Usually no one speaks up and just tries their best to adapt. One partner may give up asking and the void grows. Now ask yourself do you fall into "I am in an almost sexless marriage?"
How do you adapt?
PC2629 56-60, M 17 Responses 4 Jan 5, 2012