Is It Wrong To "count?"First some background. I am in what I consider an almost sexless marriage. Like many of you, mine did not start out that way but has ended up there. I have struggled for years to make my wife understand how important sexual intimacy is to me. Obviously, I have done a poor job because I am on this site. I also had an affair last year and was found out. Now we are in marriage counseling.
My wife believes our sex life is just fine. She told the counselor that it was fine and then I asked her how many times we had sex, not last year, but the year before. She didn't know and when I told her she was stunned. Then she was angry that I counted. I think the counselor was stunned by the low number too. This was a year that I took her and the kids on a week long cruise. We had the outside balcony cabin and our teenagers had an inside cabin just down the hall. We had sex once the entire week. I began keeping track because I thought that my feeling our sex life was going down hill was just that, a feeling. Having the data changed my mind.
Here's the question: Is it wrong to keep track of when you have sex with your partner?
If you believe yes, please tell me why?