I Need To Lower My ExpectationsThere must be just hundreds of you that could relate. You understand your spouse has no interest in intimacy but yet you still remain hopeful. For days and weeks at a time you try to peel away anything that remotely seems like pressure for sex. You never make overtures because the rejection you feel can be overwhelming. But you feel like you are living a lie while hiding your true feelings. This is the way I feel nearly every day.
I have a terrible feeling that this will never change. I find myself imagining making love to my wife and our life has renewed some passion. If only she would respond to my touch instead of pretending I'm not even in the same room. I wonder all the time how can she not feel these same desires? It's like she doesn't know I exist anymore.
We've been to counseling and it has helped me to understand that she isn't this way on purpose. I'm not suppose to take her indifference personally. How do you not take it personally? I need to know. We no longer talk about it because it doesn't help. It's not a problem for her.... The thought just doesn't occur to her. But I love her enough to endure this over and over and over.