Same Sh*t Different Motherf*cking Day

It's been two Weeks since H and I have had horrible, awkward, " sex" where he went soft halfway through. Then decided to yell at me for trying to go to sleep. I didn't want to fight, I wanted to cry, I wanted to scream, I wanted to walk out. Instead, I tell him, its ok and force myself to sleep. Before that attempt at sex, it had been 3 weeks. I was very surprised when he told me to give him a hj. I looooove hj's and teasing, so I jumped at the chance. I couldn't believe he listened to me and my wants. Needless to say, my excitement was premature and short lived as he complained, talked and was only semi-hard. I finally toldd him I want to do it my way, within 30 seconds -.w/o warning, he c*ms and tells me it's for high school kids. He says he wants to reciprocate and then f*ngers me, except he's mad, so he does it so hard, I beg him to stop, I roll over to sleep. The next day I have bruises on my thighs and buttocks, I am so sore, it hurts to sit. Tonight, he calls me from work, he says when he gets home, we're having real sex. How stupid I am to believe him. He TiVo'd the game, he won't be done watching it until 2 am, long after I am asleep - 6.am wake up call to get the kids ready and to school. He purposely avoids sex with me, he called me from work to get the score. He also kept track on his phone. Tonight, I'll be crying myself to sleep. Goodnight world.
JustMe5772 JustMe5772
26-30, F
1 Response Sep 5, 2012

The hj part was nice, you just have to be softer next time when it's his turn... and next time maybe he's the one who starts...

It wasn't about softer vs. harder, it was the fact that I wanted something sexual (even a bare minimum hj) and he.apparently didn't. He doesn't ever start, he hardly ever initiates anything unless he's mad, then he uses sex.to hurt me.

but you said he wanted to reciprocate... sometimes when I finger my wife I'm too clumsy and she asks me to stop, but then next time I'm more gentle and she likes it...

He wanted to " reciprocate" because he was mad that he had to do anything with sex at all so he wanted to hurt me - hence the bruises. There's a big difference between being clumsy/a lil too rough and violating someone to the point of bruising and extreme pain. He figures if he hurts me, I won't ask for sex. It's nothing to do with technique or needing to gain knowledge, it's to do with resentment, anger and bitterness.

Then why are you still with him?

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