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Indian/german Team?

I am from a South Indian Tamil background and my boyfriend is half-British white, half-German. He is also 10 years older than me. I love my family too much to hurt them and they have done so much for me, in order to help me finish my university studies and get a good career. I have always been a hard worker and I am confident I will make them proud on the academic front. But in terms of finding that special other half, that's something that could make or break the future of my bond with my family. They still don't know to this date and I don't know how to tell them. I know they want to protect me and prefer for me to stay within my ethnic background, however I was born and brought up in the UK where I have been exposed to different people of different races, religions, backgrounds, countries etc. I am just accepting of everyone and all my friends to this day are there regardless of where they are from. We love learning about eachother and are genuinely interested. My boyfriend is like that too, hence why we connect so much. In fact, it's more personality chemistry than anything else. We both experienced family losses so confided in eachother. His family are very close and that family unit is always great. I even met his family and I didn't feel like the ethnic minority outsider. My boyfriend's siblings are even married to Turks, Cypriots etc. Cultures are being spread. My boyfriend has a well-paid job, his house is huge with a half-acre garden...I feel safe when I am with him. He accepts me for me and if my parents could see past his skin colour to the warm hearted man he is inside, everything would be perfect. Bu there is a right time and place for my parents to know about him. My boyfriend is willing to be patient in terms of me settling down in my career, but I feel like I am living a dual life; shifting from my love for my boyfriend and love for my family. Advice is welcome, but I can't bear any criticism over interracial relationships. I have seen some offending hurtful comments on the web in discussion forums and frankly, I don't want to hear it, Everyone is different so please respect everyone's views on life instead of tearing them to pieces. Someone please help me.
yasmin2012 yasmin2012 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 15, 2012

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Sometimes it is better to ask for forgiveness than permission. I am white married to a Gujarati American. We have not had any real conflict over that, our families are thankfully very accepting and open minded. However, I certainly know others that have had serious problems. Recently our friend who is Hindu got engaged to a Sikh. Her family refused to come to the wedding. Her response was repeatedly, I love you but I love him too, and he is the man for me. So what happened? They went through some small suffering, some nasty emails, and they grew as people (in my opinion). They ended up coming to the wedding and it was fine. The years your family has cared about you are hard to undo.