Unexcepting Parents

I am honestly at the point where I don't care either, but I would like to give it a chance at least once. He has 2 kids from his past relationship and when they have parties I won't go because his parents are there. I feel like I'm neglecting his children and one day we'll be married as well and I can't leave the kids high and dry. I would rather meet them before we're at an event together and I feel like a stranger.

I am totally okay with them not liking me, and being an outcast cause I love him and he loves me and that's all that matters. Thanks for the encouraging words, this means a lot.

I too am a black female dating a white male. His mother and stepfather are racist. I have never met them or spoke with them and I honestly do not care if I ever do. We are talking marriage and I asked him how much would it affect him if his family wasn't at our wedding and he simply said "If they don't show up, then maybe they aren't really my family". My family absolutely loves him and he is at all of our events, but I just have that type of family that accepts people for who they are on the inside, not the outside. I am blessed in that way.

Keep your head up and make the decision on whether or not you are ok with being an "outcast" of sorts from his families point of view. I personally am way past ok because I trust in the bible where it says "For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife". My future husband believes that and that's what allows us to be okay.

Good Luck!

I'm in an interracial marriage. I'm black and he's white. I didn't meet my mother-in-law until 7 or 8 months after dating her son. We would always set up a date to me, but it would fall through. After a year of dating, I finally stepped a foot in her house. Her husband (the stepdad) didn't approve of interracial couplings, neither did members of her family. I respect that some people are close-minded. What bothered me was the fact that they already made up their minds about me just based off of my skin. Because I was black, they viewed me as ghetto, gold-digging, obnoxious, loud abs every stereotype out there.

So when I came to the house, he apologized. After I had my daughter, everything changed. He spoils her. I wanted to tell you my story because I know how you feel. My suggestion is, with your boyfriend, set up a lunch date. If the family isn't offering you a way for them to get to know you, extend a branch to them. Let them know that you're a part of the son's life and you want them to get to know you before judging you or making assumptions. And if they tell you, that they don't approve of interracial couple. Respect that and you & the boyfriend continue y'all relationship. You can't force someone to like you or have an open mind. You can only try. I wish y'all best of luck.