HonestyEven though we haven't had other partners since we've been together; we still consider our relationship open, and I wouldn't have it any other way. Our relationship came about from him cheating on his then gf with me. When neither of us were even considering a relationship. And because we started off that way, we knew that if we were going to be together we had to have complete honesty with each other.
It was hard for me, because I didn't know how he'd react but I told him how I felt: "I love you boundlessly, and do not want to possess or control you in any way. I want you to be happy whether or not it always involves me; and if you are unhappy in our relationship or want to have another partner, I need you to be honest about it and know that it's okay" I was even honest about the fact that I don't believe in monogamy, that I want to be with a woman someday and how I think contracts of "forever" are retarded and impractical. Surprisingly, he felt the exact same way and was willing to have an open relationship ba
We haven't been with other people yet; but it makes me feel good that it is always an option. I love that we can openly discuss these things; we can check people out together and say, "*********?" and be totally light hearted and drama free about it. He knows about and supports my fantasies, as I do his. And it's not just about sex, we are free to love who we choose as well.
It's truly been the most beautiful and satisfying relationship we've ever had and we feel that having this amount of trust and respect for each other makes all the difference! He is not "mine", I am not "his" - but we adore each others company and there is plenty of love here and that is all that matters :)