Torn Apart And Unhappy

Honestly, like I have told many of my friends who say "I don't want to hurt him/her." No matter matter what you say or do, generally the other person is going to be hurt just like you in some ways. You may not cry it out, you may not yell, they may not avoid you and it may all be mutual but that doesn't mean they aren't going to be hurt. I think once you realize that it may help you. You say you love the mother of your child which I assume is your girlfriend. However, you only care a great deal about the other woman, not love her. Could this be a possible infatuation or maybe you're smitten? If you do not feel that it is infatuation or that you're smitten then you should precede with caution because she can still be a possible rebound and if you feel that she isn't then I still suggest to be careful. Also if you're not happy where you are you should try counseling, talking, maybe there is a reason your girlfriend is controlling that can be resolved. However, this is all up to you as in if you really want to fight for your relationship before you move on or if you have exhausted everything you felt possible or necessary to try for and she just doesn't pull through.



She cannot prohibit you from seeing your son you can fight for your rights so don't even worry about it. However, no one can tell you to leave her as it is a decision you have to make and no one else this is your life. We're only given one life to live and trust me it isn't an easy one but I prefer the challenges because the end: I'm stronger, wiser, and can help people even more who may have gone through the situation. So you do what you feel is best and you sit her down and have a chat with her. However, you should still be careful with the other woman. Sometimes when we're happy in relationships or assume we are some what content with them, there is a person who comes along and may help us to get an epiphany about things in life. Or help us to see things in a better perception and we began to fall for them or at least assume we have these feelings for them which they might be short lived, which is all why I ask you to be careful. In the end you may not find green grass on the other side it may be rotting and just have green paint on it. So please, do what you feel is best for your best interest.

Go to the other woman, if your not happy your son will see it