Help! Hes On My Mind All The Time.

 I am in love with Alistair from Dragon Age. In the game, you have to go through hours of courting and wooing with him to get a good ending. Sometimes it almost looks/seems real. I know hes not real and its actually really sad to me that hes not. I find myself thinking about him all the time. Its disrupting my everyday life because I almost dont want to have a real life relationship now. All I want is to be with him. It sounds so silly because hes fictional but he seems so real on the game! Ive played it twice now so I can "talk" to him or hear him say "I love you". It sounds sad, I know.

In my rational mind, I know this is unhealthy. In my heart I cant stop having feelings for him. How do I make this stop and "wake-up" back to reality? I almost feel like Ive been living  in a dream. I actually MISS him and Im resisting the urge to turn on the game again. I know it sounds totally crazy and obsessive but I just feel like I love this pretend man. Any advice on how to STOP thinking about him and go back to the way things were before I played?

sarielizard sarielizard
26-30, F
1 Response Mar 2, 2010

If you were in your teens I'd say, "Relax -- you'll outgrow it." But seeing as though you're in your late 20's, I think this obsession is unhealthy for you.<br />
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I don't have to tell you what you already know: this guy isn't real, he isn't going to magically spring to life, and given the theme of the game, you're not likely to meet anyone IRL who resembles him in thought or in deed. Something else is going on here -- you have some kind of gnawing void in your life and you're trying to fill it with a bigger-than-life fictional character because he's safe. He has no wants, expectations, or desires of you because he isn't real so the relationship can exist entirely within the confines of your own mind where you can control the outcome.<br />
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What is it in real life that you're afraid of and/or that you feel is unattainable? I really think there's a lot more missing from your life than just the "love" of a non-existent game character. Give this some consideration and I believe that you'll have your answer.