I Keep On Building, He Keeps On Destroying.

I was like any other young woman looking for companionship. It felt good in the beginning, but as the days go by it seems that it makes me feel miserable with what's happening.

I met this guy on a site related to our profession. We needed help for our upcoming exam. Then, one day before we knew each other, we visited that particular site and that was where we found each other. Because we have the same profession and the same exam to take, we easily got along each other. We almost have the same needs and questions in mind. Some of our principles are even the same. We were happy chatting until we chatted exclusively. Most of the time, we even share the same pc and review notes. We share ideas and personal things in life. We did not only chat but I guess we're already exclusively internet dating. He is single and so am I, so I guess there's no problem with that.

On the contrary, I noticed that I was always the one compromising things for him. It was not easy. I knew our relationship worked at first because I fought for it. I was always trying to patch things up. I did my best to understand him and our situation. I kept on building things for us to be successful in the end. I tried to meet our goals no matter how hard it was on my part, but I noticed that he's not doing the same.

It seems that he always ruins things that we've started to build. The accounts and chatbox that we've made together is deleted by him. He's no longer making effort to meet our goals. Most of the time, he would find ways not to go online. And when we're online, it takes a long while before he can reply. Just recently, he even attempted to leave me again, and it wasn't the first time that he did this to me.

The problem is everytime we have problem and he leaves, he also keeps on coming back after a few days. Then again, we talk and start all over again. I don't know why he keeps on coming back, and I keep on accepting him when we knew that we always get to the point that we already want to give up. Maybe we just love each other. But I don't want to compromise things anymore. What I build is always destroyed by him. I already passed a few things in my personal life in exchange of our relationship.

I need some help to figure things out. I still care, but I ignored his PMs. Now, that he's stopped messaging me, I feel alone and I miss him. I guess I still love him. What am I going to do now?
MissDiss MissDiss
1 Response Sep 17, 2011

I think he's affraid of commitment, it seems like when u too get close he shuts down, but then comes back. <br />
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I would try not to push commitment with him, keep things slow and steady and allow him space. It seems like when it's time for a commitment he feels trapped and takes off. But he still has feelings for you. Just understand that some people are just like this, and sometimes making a relationship takes more time, don't be discouraged, just don't pressure him into anything. He'll come around when he's ready.<br />
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Good Luck,<br />
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&lt;3 :)