Deeply In Love, 10 Years Apart

Boy, I'm glad to know I'm not alone.

I'm 38 and I'm in love with a 27-year-old guy. I met him three years ago at work, when I was still married/filing for divorce, and he had a cute little girlfriend. We were just friends the whole time I worked there... of course, he was off limits. He was just a kid.

We had our first date when my contract with that company ended. I invited him to the movies, not imagining he had a genuine interest in me. After that first kiss, I lived on a cloud for months. I can say I never, never felt so happy in my whole life. With him I felt alive, eager to start my days, desired, loved, shiny like a diamond...

Almost two years have passed. Now we live together, but the relationship is not going ok. I feel a constant fear that he is going to leave me for a younger woman. At some point he wanted to marry me and have a family, but recently he discovered he has an infertility problem, and my age doesn't really help to have a baby via in vitro fertilization. He was also diagnosed with erectile dysfunction, which means he's not all over me like he was at the beginning. Not at all :(  We have argued a lot over this lately. So, he's not marrying me anymore, and the baby plans are not happening.

I'd like to know what are your thoughts on this, ladies. Are you also afraid of losing your guy because of the age difference? Are you embracing your relationship, not letting this bother you? I'd appreciate if you can share your wisdom/experiences.

shroob66 shroob66
36-40, F
1 Response Mar 6, 2012

Embrace the relationship! Age is just a number!! Love is precious don't let your love slip away! Don't let age bother you and just enjoy the time you have with him and you two may have hard times but your getting through them together and in the future there will always be happy times! I understand you love him in a deeper way, make him comfortable with the situation you got to think of your wants and desires towards the relationship as one not two different people! Just enjoy the relationship!

Thanks, 911forever... your comment means a lot to me right now...

Any time.happy I could help:)

Couldn't have said it better myself!