Forbidden Love?

My story begins last summer. We met at work, began texting. Toward the end of summer, we went on a date. I never really planned on it going anywhere. I knew how my family felt, and still feels, about the 13 year age difference, but I had never been on a date with someone I wasn't in a relationship with. That's all it was initially meant to be. Dinner and a movie. The end.

We continued to text when I went back to school. A few weeks later, he stopped texting me. He had found a woman his age. 'That's fine.' I thought. 'Quite respectable that he stopped communication with me when he started dating her. Shows real loyalty.'

I kept in contact with a mutual friend and co-worker. She told me how he was doing and such. Then the woman he was dating broke it off. I never heard details. But, he started texting me again.

The first time I snuck out to his place was over Christmas break. I've lost count since then. It's now July, and we've been secretly seeing each other since January. I'd stop by his place for a night or two on my way home from or back to school on weekends. My family knows I sneak out to his place on occasion. They aren't happy about it. I wouldn't lie about it if they'd let me live my life.

I'm 23. Still living with my parents. Financially dependent on them. They've helped me get school loans. They pay for my cell phone. The car I drive is theirs. I love them dearly, and I'm incredibly grateful. I am! But, I think I love him. My sister says I'm breaking my mom's heart. He's not a bad guy. i wish they would open their eyes and see how well he treats me. I have one more year of school. I just want to be done now so I can move out and date whoever the hell I want!

He's 36. Has 3 beautiful daughters that don't live with him. He's a hard-worker. An absolute smart-***...never ceases to make me smile or laugh. And.....I think I love him. I haven't told anyone yet. I've debated telling him, but I want my family to be ok with this. I want them to realize what he means to me, and that I don't take them for granted. I don't want to hurt them. I just want to be happy. ='(
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1 Response Jul 9, 2010

If they would see how much you love him, they would approve to it..<br />
I've got the same problem. I just started something with a guy who's 20 years older than me (I think I win? ;p) and he told me he doesn't want people to know, because he's a barowner and he thinks it'll get his business down. This morning I got an e-mail from my best friend that he(my some sort of boyfriend) knows I told him (my best friend). I'm kind of afraid of his reaction :/ My friend (Thomas) said that he (let's call him Edward) said he'd leave it up to me. But I think that's too good to be true, I'm afraid he'll tell me we'd better stop this :( I wouldn't mind if people knew, but I would mind if my parents knew, so I've got the same problem as you have... Though I don't think I would hurt them because of that. I'm just afraid of my dad's reaction.. He'd be REALLY angry and would probably not want to understand..