So, I have been married for nearly 11 years. I have been in love with another woman for 7 of those years, and have been having an affair for most of those 7 years. My wife and I have an 9 year old daughter together. My "friend" has three kids with her husband.
It started out innocently enough as I am sure most of these do, but gradually grew to a point where we are very madly in love with each other. We have tried to stop what we are doing and we are now to the point that none of this is making us happy. So, as of today, and this seems to change every so often, we are going to do own thing in our own marriages to get where we both want to go, which is with each other. Talking to each other now is so painful because we are frustrated about our situations. Clearly, we need to change something!
I am not in love with my wife, and have mostly stopped having sex with her before our daughter was born. I think that we've had sex a total of 6 times since we've had our daughter, and no sex for about 5 years. My wife knows of the other, but not to the degree of my involvement. I feel like crap because of the situation and I have hidden so much from her. My wife and I have virtually nothing in common other than our daughter at this point, although we are congenial to one another. I know she is still with me because of our daughter, and she feels financially trapped.
I can't seem to get over the guilt part of wanting to have the life that I want because I feel like i am deserting my family. My "friend" desperately wants to be with me, and has not been happy in her marriage before we knew each other. I should mention that my relationship became a disaster after our daughter was born as It seemed to change my wife so much. I became the ob
My daughter is such a great part of my life as she should be. I fear that if I get a divorce that she and her mother will move a state away and I will lose that relationship with my daughter. I am totally fearful of divorce, but know that I will never be truly happy where I am. I feel stuck and don't know where to turn.