Best Friend Romance

Well I have been friends with this guy for about 5 months now. During winter break he was having me spend the night & we would have movie nights. On our third movie night we kissed & after that he would always tell me I'm beautiful, flirt with me, hug me, & we went to parties together. We acted like a couple. But now everthing is different, he is dating his ex...he dated her for 2 years & they are back together. It hurts so bad because I want to be with him. We had a confrontation today & he told me his girlfriend has a problem with me. Like I really care...come'on. But I had to tell him my feelings for him & he said "You never said anything" really? why do I have to be the one to speak up? I asked him if he ever liked me like this...he said as a good friend...pretty sure you don't make out with your "good friend". I am so hurt, he can't just toy with my feelings like that.

BeautifullyBroken1990 BeautifullyBroken1990
18-21, F
5 Responses Feb 9, 2009

If he can't see that leaving you is the worst mistake he's ever made then it's his loss, because you look amazing and beyond describing words in the way of beauty. Trust me you will find the perfect one, and they will find you, at the perfect time, you both will know

Believe it or not, I know exactly how you feel. I'm in the middle of a similar situation. Have a look at my entry "Him And Me, Against The World" and let me know what you think. In the mean time, I wish you all the best.

Sorry to hear that sweetie. No, people don't act like he did when it's just "plain friendship".<br />
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Maybe he thought you were fine with what you guys had, and didnt thought of it as serious. But that doesnt change the fact, that he hurted you and it was really mean of him to play your heart like that.<br />
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He's your best friend? Friends don't do like that. Sure, you can always talk to him, but it sounds like he chose to be with his ex. <br />
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It's alright to be sad, if you just remember to move on. Things go wrong and people change. It hurts, but it's his lost. I hope you know that already.

what a supreme ***.

Guys wil often get away with what they can. It's not honorable or noble, but it's true. You were there for him as a great friend, with some small benefits, and you had expectations for more. He obviously felt comfortable blurring the line between friend and more.<br />
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I'm sorry for your heartbreak. Given your feelings for him and the fact that he is back with his ex, I think it would be wise to just leave him alone - no phone, or texst or hanging out - for at least 6 months. That should hopefully give you enough time to heal, hopefully find a better match and then see if you even want to have this guy as a friend again.<br />
Good luck.