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My Love Was Taken Away

Lets call this teacher Daniel. He was 22 and it was his first year teaching. My friend introduced me to him at a school football game. He coached soccer and my friend played on varsity. The first thing I noticed was how hot he was, but his personality soon over powered his looks. He was wearing one of those funny looking hats that had the flaps that go over your ears and it was all furry. The first thing he said to me was you know you love my hat. I giggled a bit and responded with it is lovely. That was back in October. After that we would chat in the hallway at the end of the day before i had to catch the buss. We would talk about video games and sports. He was amazing. We had so much in common. Well, I started having a bunch family problems at the end of December. Ohh I forgot he tutored me once in November becaus me teacher SUCKED. Anyway, I was going through and still is going through a legal battle. Custody if you must know. I would talk to him about it. He would always assure me that everything would be alright. This eventually got me emotionally attached to him. The first week in February someone I didn't know messages me on aim. It ended up being him!!! My mother found a transcript on the computer ofnour conversations and sent them to the school. Since there was nothing criminal at all nothing was done other then scaring the **** out of us. I ad to talk to two detectives that time. I wrote him a VERY long letter explaining myself and saying sorry. He responded and the letters continued. The relationship was mutual. April 10 was one of the worst days of my life. The teacher heard a rumor that we were having sex, which wasnt true. I'm a virgin. I could see a tear in his eye about to run down his face. This killed me on the inside. I immediatly tested my father about the rumor. He responded with your mother found some letters between the t of you. My heart sank. I checked for the letters and I still had them. She photocoppied them and put them back. She then gave them to the school and police, and sent me to school. She knew I was going to be pulled and questioned. That was exactly what happened. I was stuck in the office for a while being pummeled with questions. There were so many emotions running through my head. Mostly what was Daniel doing and feeling right now. The next days I was questioned by a detective again. That saw day I jus blew and tried to slash my mothers tires. She felt that she needed to lie about what happened and told the psychologist that I went after her with a knife. He called crisis which made me go to the hospital. I as then sent to the psychiatric are of the hospital. I was there or a week. All they found was an overload of stress. I was going through a very hard time. By the way an article was printed about the situation in the loocal news paper. Rumors spread like wild fire. I then had to go to a program as an after therapy program. I was there for 2-3 weeks. Now I am home bound. There was another article stating that the teacher resigned. There were comments stating that he was a predator and such. Students even started telling their parents that he would try and keep them after class. These accusations were not correct considering I was with him after most of the classes. The last time I saw him wasin school April 10, with a tear in his eye. He is my first and only love. I cannot contact or see him ever again. We used to have hour long conversations every night on the phone. He was the only person I trusted; and he was taken away from me. I love him with all my heart and cry everyday when I think about him. His teaching certificate was takwn away ad he cannot teach ever again. I believe I ruined his life an I have never been the same since.
CrazedTeenager CrazedTeenager 16-17, F 54 Responses May 13, 2008

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Sweetie, your mother really jumped to conclusions. She could of taken the time to listen and understand you. That was the more motherly thing to do. If this happened to me, I wouldn't be able to live with myself. I know you won't believe me when I say this, but it was not your fault. You said he got his teaching certificate taken away. Did he go to prison? Also, was he mad at you for this?

your mom sucks, sorry

Wow, this is so tragic. I can't imagine being told at such a relatively young age that I could never work in my chosen field again for the rest of my life. I guess this is why male teachers are becoming fewer and fewer these days, just trying to be a mentor and guide to a young person can make you the target of such a witch hunt. I feel so sorry for this poor man,everything he'd ever worked for, ruined; I hope he doesn't suffer any more than he already has... :(

Another male teacher fed to the more step towards establishing a feminist school system to brainwash boys into weak, drug addled eunuchs to be slaves to women and the state.

I hope you learned an important lesson here, and you realize that what happened to Daniel is also happening to hundreds of thousands of men across the whole spectrum of society.

Now you see what happens due to feminism spreading hysteria and calling all men sexual predators, men get chewed up and spat out while nothing bad happens to you.

Remember what happened the next time someone tells you about "rape culture" and that women are sooo are the oppressed ones, it is women like your mother who are the chauvinists and oppressors.

The man is "guilty by accusation". A simple rumor was more than enough to completely ruin his life. Men are afraid to enter teaching professions because of this environment and as a result, there are something like 90% female teachers who (obviously) don't know how to relate to boys which are falling behind and have been for decades. Still, all we hear about is how we need to encourage more women to get further and further ahead in education/careers and so forth. Even this experience has turned into nothing more than sympathy for the girl and ZERO sympathy for the guy who's life/career/reputation was completely and utterly destroyed from nothing more than a rumor. Well, nevermind any of that. Just call me a "hater". Say that i am being all "judgemental". Tell me i am being "jelly" and that i need to show support or something. Flag, ban, spam me, report me for harassment for trying to share the TRUTH. It's all good right? YOLOOOOOOOO!!!

I'm so sorry. The whole thing is really so silly since there's such a small age gap. If you love each other then you should be able to be together. Don't feel guilty, it wasn't your fault. I hope you find the strength and courage to recover and move forward.

Thats horrible parenting spreading rumors about your own kid. More damage than good..all she had to do was pull you out of school and take you to the doctor instead she ruined his. Life and damaged. You i hope you and the teacher find it in your heart yo forgive your mother and heal your selvrs

Sad story.. yes talking to your teacher. About such a personal attached you emotionally...your parents should have gotten. You a counselor at thst time my niece had problems when shecwas 16 and started talking to a guy in school about it and ended up pregnant by him...

do you know the song. Girl youll b a woman reminds me of you
..maybe they shouldn't put 22 year old teachers in high school.

Yea, songs are cool!! It's definately the guys fault for sure. YOU GO GURLLLL!!! GIRL POWERRRRR!!!!

wait until you are 18 and search about him :)

Hopefully by then he'll be beaten down and broken man. Maybe he'll be living under a bridge in a cardboard box cause he lost the career he worked so hard to attain then got fired in the worst economy in 4 generations. Nevermind all that silly "reality". Where were we...oh yea...that poor little princess who had some emotional feelings. That poor girl! Lets show her some support ladies cause no man deserves sympathy, compassion or fairness or anything!! GURL POWERRRRRRR!!!!!

I cried! :(

Not always a happy ending. Im sorry....

Look up his whole name in and write him a letter and don't mail it from your house. Tell him how psycho and nosey your mom is and you didn't know and how you feel. You got nothing at all to lose.

Poor you! Yousound like an amazing person, and i know how you must have felt with the psychiatrist. Most people don't know they are actually crazier than their clients, and only help because their in the same situation

AAHhhh !!!!! ;( my heart is broken now !! i am so sorry.

I'm sorry.

This is so heartbreaking and devastating! I'm so so so so sorry :'(
I know you must feel terrible, but I hope the most Daniel is okay! He must be going through such a rough time, oh my God. If you ever need to talk, there's so many people here, including me, for you. Best thing is you can remain anonymous, so you don't have to be afraid. Please keep us updated if you can. <3

I'm so sorry... please, tell me how you are now! Have you talked to him after that/

I'm sorry :(

I kind of hate your mom after reading that story. Sorry all this happened. Everything will work out for you in the end.

That's terrible, but it's not really all your fault, if you still feel like that i think you should try to talk to him some way and be careful so your physco mom doesnt look for the messages. Best of luck, :)

I am crying, I am so sorry that this happened too you, I am in love with my teacher, but he doesn't even know who I am, this makes me feel so sad, I really think that you should now try and contact him, he isn't a teacher so what can people do about it? hope everything gets better! x

You should try and contact him- now that he's not in school anymore everyone can shut the **** up. It was an unfair ending for you both.

This is an awful thing to happen. I'm sorry that you were torn from each other and that he lost his license. People are so cruel sometimes.

Im so sorry this happened to you. This is such a sad story. for both of you guys. But he should of known better. You were under age.

Aww I hope things get better...but really dislike your mom

I'm crying, I feel so sorry for you and him.
I hope one day, when your older, he will appear and y'all can be together<3

Oh I'm so seems so unfair!what kind of mom could ruin her child like this?!

Nothing wrong in this your mum was wicked to do that to you. He's only 22, not like he's way older or anything. I wouldn't approve myself if I had a daughter seeing someone way older but 22 is okay and your mum is in the wrong! i wish you the best. You're only young, and have your whole life ahead...take care

Oh honey.. I couldn't help but tear up at your story. I really feel for you, and your teacher. Oh my goodness... Your mother is horrible, and I hope she gets what she deserves! I can feel the pain in your story.. I hope one day you will see him again. I really do. You don't know where he lives? His phone number, or any possible way to contact him? Facebook?

None of that crazy mess should've ever happened to you. I'm sorry this happened, dear.. :'-( *hug*

Oh :(

I thought i would die when my love moved away, this is much much worse, I feel for you and I wish i could hug you and comfort you, if you want to talk about it with me you can, and after what she did to you I would have ran after er with a knife luvs ya

Oh my goodness. No offense, but your mom is SUCH A *****!<br />
sorry if you take offense to that, but i had to say it; parents can be SO NOSY and feel the need to overanalyze EVERYTHING. she had absolutely NO RIGHT.<br />
I had a dream (nightmare, really) similar to this; maybe i had read this story before, and it seeped into my subconscious?<br />
I just cannot believe how things turned out. I am just sobbing and crying over this, for you and for "Daniel". I feel for you, and am sending my love to you and to him...

I can relate ... I feel as though it's my fault my teacher is where she is now because of me . We had a sexual relationship and my mom found out one day when she took my phone I was 13 at the time now about to be 16 and the court day to send my teacher away is this year. It's a painful feeling when u have some much love for one person and it's taken away and you have no way to recieve it back

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10 words: Love will find a way.<br />
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Love will ALWAYS find a way.<br />
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The same way a single green vine shoot is able to grow through the cement.<br />
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You musn´t feel like you ruined his life. I don´t understand why your mother acted the way she did, it just seems wrong. I´m sure that if my mother found messages, letters, calls between me and my teacher, she probably WOULD worry and WOULD get suspicious about him but wouldn´t do ANYTHING before first having a talk with me about it.<br />
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Because it IS such a delicate situation that could be so easily misinterpreted and because the slightest action taken by anyone could effectively ruin somebody´s life in a second.<br />
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That´s why these kind of things have to be talked over, not just impulsively take action on it, because WHAT if you´re wrong about him? What if you just unjustly ruined somebody´s career and humilliated them in the eyes of everyone who ever respected them?<br />
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And my mother is PROTECTIVE. But she would STILL have enough morale and sensitivity to ask first. Discuss it.<br />
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Besides, it doesn´t seem like you guys were doing anything wrong to begin with. You became friends, and it doesn´t sound like he ever took advantage of his position or tried anything with you.<br />
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All I wanted to say is, if he´s a good teacher, he´ll be able to teach again. People know that sometimes **** happens and things can be misinterpreted and someone can be wrongly accused and convicted. I´m sure he´ll go and talk to someone and they´ll listen and they´ll understand and they will realize that he´s a good person that would NEVER do anything like that.<br />
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I think you should wait until you´re 18 and move out of your house and go find him. That´s what I would do, anyways. <br />
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I know you´re scared. <br />
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But he KNOWS it wasn´t your fault and that it was people who jumped and wrongly pointed a finger at him, and that you had nothing to do with it, and you felt just as badly as he did, just as HARASSED as he did.<br />
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Please, don´t give up hope. My love died. He was in school with me and there´s this boulevard we had to cross from the bus stop to the school. There´s this turn some cars make, and it´s badly designed. There´s a blind spot, and they can´t see for a couple of seconds if someone is crossing the street. This car was just going too fast, and it was just too late to stop.<br />
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He died on the way to the hispital.<br />
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The guy driving the car was so upset, he practically got on his knees and begged his parents forgiveness, and I realized he didn´t really mean to do it, so I wasn´t that mad at him.<br />
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The reason I´m telling you this is because you guys have gone through hell, but both of you are alive. <br />
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And you love each other.<br />
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And I know that if I had to go through hell, I would, and I would fight until my bones ached, until I was with him. If the universe only let me. Touch him again. Kiss him. Hug him.<br />
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My one true love died. And I´m never going to see him again.<br />
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Please, don´t give up.<br />
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And no matter what happens, please, cling to this:<br />
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Love will find a way. Love will always find a way.

Omg thats horrible!!!! Thats not your fault. Really. Terrible luck because the story got so twisted and perverted.. It happens alll the time and its a damn shame. Its not your fault at all... I feel terrible for you because i can understand the pain you were going through. If that happened to me id be sooooo upset it would be terrible... I'd never do anything again lol.

Honey im so sorry<br />
how cruel of your mom ........<br />
why didnt she just talked 2 U??<br />
what is her problem :S

This is tragic. No one should EVER be punished or shamed for being in a consensual relationship. It is just plain wrong.

I know exactly what your going through except I am actually dating my social studies student teacher(he was still in school to be a teacher). We have been together for 7 months now and I knew him from before he was a teacher. Anyways right now he's been fired from the district we live in. Next up is the college of teachers, his teaching certificate will be pulled. In the questioning with the first investigation my mom told them that my brother can hear me having sex with him in my room, I have a picture of him and I kissing as my desk top background and that I will never tell the truth about orbit relationship which is true. He lives me enough that he's going to lose everything for me, I have never felt so bad. Let me addy best friend also told the district everything and so did his friend. We've lost a lot to be together and I am really sorry to hear about your story. People dont realize that these teachers aren't sick or perverted at all. The districts need to actually acknowledge that these are good people. I am sorry for you, I know I would die if he was taken from me like your teacher was.. :(

you have probs heard this before, but im sooo sorry!! why would your mother do such a thing!!/ sure one day your paths will cross again, and you can both explain everything and then maybe barriers will be broken, you know what they say if its meant to be.......xx

you have probs heard this before, but im sooo sorry!! why would your mother do such a thing!!/ sure one day your paths will cross again, and you can both explain everything and then maybe barriers will be broken, you know what they say if its meant to be.......xx

Wow..this is so sad. I am so sorry. If you guys really do love each other, you'll find a way♥

I'm so sorry you have to go through that. It was horrible! I wish I could be by your side and give you strength. :( Hang in there okay.

This is so terrible but atleast now hes not your teacher some years from now u could be together. plus i wish u had gone at your mum wiv the knife he she sounds like a *****

I know the feeling. Strangely i too developed feelings in october for my teacher... and in February Everything went to s**t. I too am forbidden to see him ever again. sad...<br />
i feel you. i really do. <br />
Now... he's married and is about to have his first child... the one i'd dreamt would've been mine... its sad and tragic... us young people who crush on our teachers.... nothing we can do until we are eighteen. Life just isn't fair.

OMG, that sounds incredibly cruel of your mother! This doesn't sound like an illegal relationship your teacher was having with you. From what you say, it sounds like you didn't even tell him of your feelings and he was just being an awesome teacher to help you with your issues. I hate that people are so prejudiced. :( Hope you'll be fine, and him too.

Wow....this story is really sad and my heart hurts for u girl.

I hope you can get thru this horrible phase, and I hope he's ok right now. Please don't try to hurt yourself in any way. I've seen so many girls hurting themselves after these terrible things. I am there with you!! If you want to talk to someone, please don't hesitate to msg me!! :( hug**

Aw, this is so sad, I think you two really loved eachother. I'm so, so sorry for everything that happened, especially with your mom. Apparentl she did all that because she doesn't have the b@lls to talk to you herself. <br />
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And, who knows, mabe someday you and this man will find eachother again (if love something, set it free. if it returns, it's meant to be). I remember a student/teacher romance between a teen boy and a young female teacher, she actually went to prison for several years because of it. When she got out, they found eachother, got married, and had a family. It's possible! Stay strong honey :)

aww, thats do sad ...dont worry, if you guys are really meant to be, love will find a way=)

poor thing im sry you have to go thru this , if you ever need to talk plz message me , i havent ever been thru this situation but ive been thru alot , i bet we have alot in common

Wow I can't think of anything to say that could possibly help you at all, but my god that was the saddest story I've read in a long time. You have my sympathy and many virtual hugs. <br />
It's not your fault the way things turned out, BirdsFlyAway is right, your mother just misinterpreted the situation and things just flew out of control from there. It seriously sucks but its not your fault.

Awe! Sweetie that is soooo sad! You can't blame yourself though, he knew you were having a hard time and was trying to help you. Your mother took it the wrong way, and well...I guess it just got out of hand...<br />
Just wait. If you two are truly meant to be together, you'll meet again under better circumstances.<br />
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omg.<br />
i would feel so bad. i would cry so much. i wouldn't know what to say, think, or do. I've been in love with a teacher, and it never ends up good, but your situation--it just ended up bad.

awww u poor thing *give online hug*