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It's Love

I hate when people say I'm "lusting" over him. It's like shut the f--- up! I get it, you don't see what I see. You only see a teacher who is supposedly not attractive whatsoever and has a boring, monotone voice.

I have never once had saw him as that. I never saw him as a teacher. I only see him as someone so beautiful and handsome and someone I know I must be destined to be with.

Lust is when you only think physically of him/her. Yeah, I have MANY sexual fantasies about him... Us. But it's not all the time. Most of time it's just us talking or laughing or just looking longingly into his green/blue almost gray eyes.

Want to know what I see in him? I don't just see a beautifully-handsome man. I see artwork. I see someone who I want/can be myself around. Who I can tell everything too. Who I can protect even when he protects me. I see someone so great that actually has the ability and patience to teach me. He makes me want to be the best and I love that. I love how polite he is and when he gets mad he fidgets and when he gets nervous his eyes move around a lot and when he smiles he bites his bottom lip first and then smiles. I love the way his eyes glisten in the sunlight and when he gets stressed he rolls around in his chair and plays with his hair. I love everything about him.

When I hear his voice or see him, I stop wherever I am and stare, I can't help it anymore. It hurts but it also brings me so much joy to see or be with him. And when I'm with him it's like everything goes away and my worries are gone and everything is great. He makes my life so good.

People say that it sucks that he's 21 years older than me but honestly... I'm still in the game. And no matter what anybody says, I will never change him. I don't want to or plan too. He's perfect just the way he is even if the age gap is huge, I wouldn't ever change the way we met or the age difference. It sucks, but I'm lucky enough to have him in my life in the first place.

I take him for granted. If he was taken from my life tomorrow, I'd want him to know every single thought or word that has come from me since I started loving him.

Nobody seems to understand me but its okay. I'm okay with it. I love being in love with him and maybe one day I'll come back and laugh at it.... But at the moment, he is my drive, my goal. And hopefully I can look back on this and laugh at it... While with him.

Don't give up. I have hope and so should you all. It might have been crazy at first but now I've accepted it.

Signs of lust: You're totally focused on a person's looks and body. You're interested in having sex, but not in having conversations. You'd rather keep the relationship on a fantasy level, not discuss real feelings. You want to leave soon after sex rather than cuddling or breakfast the next morning. You are lovers, but not friends. Signs of love: You want to spend quality time together other than sex. You get lost in conversations and forget about the hours passing. You want to honestly listen to each other's feelings, make each other happy. He or she motivates you to be a better person. You want to get to meet his or her family and friends. Out of the lust category I checked off the first one because I usually am only looking at his body and such. But in the love category I checked all of them. If you think this is really lust please tell me why. I'd love to hear you go against my shrink. Goodnight.
TheTeacherLover TheTeacherLover 22-25, F 10 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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YES This describes my situation perfectly couldn't have been said better. everyone always says its just a stupid crush, you'll get over it, but I don't. I lost him six months ago when I graduated and every moment apart from him I am depressed. He is my life and I miss him so much

I absolutely love this. Good for you girl! I have the same feelings for my band director. I must say this is a really well educated statement! Great job! And good luck with your man! :)

OMG this is how I feel around my teacher crush, all tough I don't go to the same school I love him for him and want to spend quality time with him. It does suck for me because he is at a different school and I might never see him again but I do not lust over my teacher crush.

Don't get him fired

I won't.

I completely share your sentiments on love, and I have never understood why people place so much importance on lovers having similar ages! I believe love is so much more than being born around the same time, sometimes people in completely different stages of life end up fitting together better than if they had settled with someone close to their own age. Keep on pursuing the one you love, no matter what anyone else says!

I think this is great! Thanks so much for your comment!

Yep boys my age are rude and don't care for my feeling at least that is what I think pulse the teachers I like are nice and really listen to my feelings.

You tell them girl ;)

I know how you feel, it's exactly the same for me. I checked off every single one in the "love" category. ^^

I can mostly see were you are coming from even no im 17 years old and my boyfriends 22.... And even though people think that you are lusting over him you no in your heart that you maybe love him and thats all that matters its your life live it how you want too it shouldnt be up to anyone else... I know i wouldnt stress myself out just because of what people think all that matters is if your happy screw what everyone else thinks.... Because all its gonna do is stress you out trust me and take it from someone who knows thats all i ever do is worry about everyone else and thats why doctors wonder why i cant gain any weight...... Be yourself keep ur head high and shine no matter what because life is too short....!!!

Thank you so much! And I hope you and yoru bf are happy!

thank you as well....

you're lusting over him -.-

Signs of lust:

You're totally focused on a person's looks and body.
You're interested in having sex, but not in having conversations.
You'd rather keep the relationship on a fantasy level, not discuss real feelings.
You want to leave soon after sex rather than cuddling or breakfast the next morning.
You are lovers, but not friends.
Signs of love:

You want to spend quality time together other than sex.
You get lost in conversations and forget about the hours passing.
You want to honestly listen to each other's feelings, make each other happy.
He or she motivates you to be a better person.
You want to get to meet his or her family and friends.

Out of the lust category I checked off the first one because I usually am only looking at his body and such. But in the love category I checked all of them.

If you think this is really lust please tell me why. I'd love to hear you go against my shrink.

Have a good day(:

i stand by my point and sorry i really dont need to fight- i dont know you so i dont need to go against your shrink coz -uhm- s/he'd loose :-)

have an awesome day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I just wanted to know why you said that, I know you don't want to "fight" but I am actually really wondering what other people's thoughts are!
Message me? I'd really like your say on this, I need all the help I can get lol. :))

sorry im not a rude person at all. The reason why i said that is to get your reaction b-coz i cant help being a tad bit worried

Worried about what?

that you'll get hurt(i'm not saying this will happen!!)

(nice anger management btw :-)

Trust me, I don't want to get hurt. And that's why I keep boundaries.
I appreciate you being worried and commenting! It helps to have other people's views on the situation.
And I think even if I did get hurt... It'd be worth it.

I wasn't angry at all. I like to hear what others say, I like opinions. I come on here to get them. Why'd you think I was angry?....

good to know you know what you want- and other ppl would have been lyk - kuffin idiot! i said i dont lust over him bi**h !get lost- looser!

Lol I'm not like that(:
I just let those go.... I don't really care what others think, if I was with him, it'd make me happy. My happiness counts(:
Well I don't really want him... I need him. I feel like he's that missing part of me.
You made me laugh when you put up the example(:
I hope you are having a good Sunday! :)

no iddnt think you were angry! i meant youre nice and you know were to direct your -ummmmm not anger- but ya know!?(ik it dosnt make sense)

Haha yeah I kinda get it. If I'm mad I just take it out at soccer practice. :) or in poems. I'm so weird! I try to be nice, it gets kinda hard sometimes though lol :3

awesome sunday!

awwwww that sh shweet - wish you & him the best!

Thank you(:

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This is perfect.

Thank you so much!

wow!!

Good wow? Or bad wow? Lol

Lol a good wow ;)

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