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Faith. Hope. Trust. Respect. Love.

I never imagined that I would fall so much in love with a man from a different country.  An ocean and thousands of miles separate us and still I have never felt such love for and from a man like he is with me.  When we are in touch the miles disappear between us and we are joined as closely as a man and woman can be in this way.  His love is amazing. Unselfish. Giving.  Tender. 

We have known one another for some time now and we both felt something so different when we started messaging back and forth.  I found myself looking forward to every contact from him and would break into a huge smile whenever I saw a message from him.  I knew that I had someone very special in him and that feeling keeps growing daily. 

A few weeks back I remembered something that my aunt told me many years ago. She said that she saw me with a man with dark hair and I was so very happy.  Then she told me that he was from far away. A different country but that we were together sharing a wonderful life!  I then realized that she had been telling me about him!  All those years ago she knew this. 

Being so far apart brings up some concerns obviously.  At times there is this little fear that obstacles are in the way.  We are so in love and want to meet and be together and this time is coming for he is making plans to fly here and meet me.  Thoughts of meeting became a belief and now an imperative for both of us. No questions about this.  Sometime this fall we will finally meet after a year of falling in love and it will be wonderful. To finally see his face in person. To share that first hug and kiss.  Laugh and talk. Make plans for a shared life.  

Because we are so close emotionally, the separation becomes harder to cope with at times.  I was feeling a bit down earlier this week.  He could tell by the sound of my voice that I was feeling a bit blue and was very concerned about me.  I love him even more for worrying about me so.  And I worry about him too as he is going through a necessary emotional difficulty lately.  

I shared my feeling of being a bit down with a dear friend here and she told me some very important things.  The first is to have faith in him and I do.  He is the best person I have ever known.  He has never let me down and he never will. He has promised to always do his best for me and I promised to always do my best for him too.  

The second thing my friend told me is to have hope.  And I do have hope. My hope is that we will be together sharing our new life sooner than we expect.  We have no doubts that we will share this life together but the time apart becomes harder for us both.  So having hope for this being sooner rather than later is what we are hoping for.

The third thing I was told was to have trust and I do. I trust this dear man with my heart and our future.  I trust him to follow his path to me.  I also have told him that he never has to weigh his words with me. We have shared every thing so far and this will continue.  For him to know that he can trust me is very important to me. I will never do anything to intentionally cause him any hurt or harm.  He is getting little support for his present situation so I am the one that he can always turn to with the confidence that he can trust me with what is happening. 

The last two words are my own addition.  Respect is key to any successful relationship.  Respect means that you are concerned about your partners feelings.  That you understand their choices.  That you listen with an open heart.  Think things through for the growth of the other person joined to you in life. Give them the time to work things out and not force any issues for your own agenda but for the benefit of both of you.  I have tremendous respect for this man and always will feel this way about him.

And then there is love.  Love that brings two strangers together in a way that is amazing. Love that has grown over months.  Love that has seen both of us through some difficult times. Love worth having. Love that joins two hearts from so far away as if we were in the same body.  He sees in me things that no one else ever has.  That I am strong but that a fragile heart beats inside of me.  That I am passionate but somewhat reserved and shy with many people. Most people.  That I love to laugh and bring laughter to his life too.  

So when I get a little down I will remember these five words and feel better about our being apart for the present time.  Together we share them all.  Together we are at our best.  And together we will make a life sharing all of these words and emotions.  He deserves my best as I deserve his.  And this is what we have. Our present and our future.

dartist dartist 56-60, F 13 Responses Jun 21, 2009

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Hello,... I am in a same situation too. I am in love with a man in another country, he from london and while I am at indonesia. he makes me smile every time. And we love each other a lot. We look to the future we like you to have the qualities of hope, faith, love, respect. I certainly can not imagine my life without him. And I am very happy because we were one belief, we are both Muslims. Thank you for sharing your story, I am really happy for you both :) And it gives me more hope that one day me and my love will meet.

I am in a same situation. I am in love with a man in another country and my family thinks i am crazy for doing so but he makes me smile every time he correspond with me. And we love each other a lot. We look to our future just like you by having those qualities of hope, faith ,love, respect. I definitely can't imagine my life without him.

Hi, I have the same situation, I met this Dutch guy in Tumblr and we've been talking for months now. I don't know if he feels the same way (probably not yet because he said it really takes him a long time to fall with someone) but I haven't actually told him that I am in kind of in love with him. It's not really really serious, it's like I'm only starting to fall in love with him and the feeling is wonderful. He only knows that I like him or maybe that I have a little crush on him and he's fine with that. There's this longing feeling that I want to be with him and this huge question mark in my mind that if it really possible that what I am feeling is true. <br />
When I remember about everything sweet he told to me through messages, like promising that we'll travel the world together and stuff, I feel butterflies in my stomach and the feeling is genuine. Just remembering his face makes me go nuts. And I don't only love him because of his appearance, I am mature enough to not be like that. He is perfect, the exact type of guy I've been looking for. This is true, I am shocked to uncover things about him that I've been dreaming my love to be like. We share so many interests and likes so many that it seems so unreal. And unlike any other teens nowadays, he is not doing drugs, don't smoke, barely drink, still a virgin and really mature enough. That is the exact type of guy that I like. I have this strong feeling that he is the one and I am doing everything I can to make it possible for us to see each other. Only problem is that he doesn't fall in love easily. What can I do? :-(

Hi, I have the same situation, I met this Dutch guy in Tumblr and we've been talking for months now. I don't know if he feels the same way (probably not yet because he said it really takes him a long time to fall with someone) but I haven't actually told him that I am in kind of in love with him. It's not really really serious, it's like I'm only starting to fall in love with him and the feeling is wonderful. He only knows that I like him or maybe that I have a little crush on him and he's fine with that. There's this longing feeling that I want to be with him and this huge question mark in my mind that if it really possible that what I am feeling is true. <br />
When I remember about everything sweet he told to me through messages, like promising that we'll travel the world together and stuff, I feel butterflies in my stomach and the feeling is genuine. Just remembering his face makes me go nuts. And I don't only love him because of his appearance, I am mature enough to not be like that. He is perfect, the exact type of guy I've been looking for. This is true, I am shocked to uncover things about him that I've been dreaming my love to be like. We share so many interests and likes so many that it seems so unreal. And unlike any other teens nowadays, he is not doing drugs, don't smoke, barely drink, still a virgin and really mature enough. That is the exact type of guy that I like. I have this strong feeling that he is the one and I am doing everything I can to make it possible for us to see each other. Only problem is that he doesn't fall in love easily. What can I do? :-(

Hi, I have the same situation, I met this Dutch guy in Tumblr and we've been talking for months now. I don't know if he feels the same way (probably not yet because he said it really takes him a long time to fall with someone) but I haven't actually told him that I am in kind of in love with him. It's not really really serious, it's like I'm only starting to fall in love with him and the feeling is wonderful. He only knows that I like him or maybe that I have a little crush on him and he's fine with that. There's this longing feeling that I want to be with him and this huge question mark in my mind that if it really possible that what I am feeling is true. <br />
When I remember about everything sweet he told to me through messages, like promising that we'll travel the world together and stuff, I feel butterflies in my stomach and the feeling is genuine. Just remembering his face makes me go nuts. And I don't only love him because of his appearance, I am mature enough to not be like that. He is perfect, the exact type of guy I've been looking for. This is true, I am shocked to uncover things about him that I've been dreaming my love to be like. We share so many interests and likes so many that it seems so unreal. And unlike any other teens nowadays, he is not doing drugs, don't smoke, barely drink, still a virgin and really mature enough. That is the exact type of guy that I like. I have this strong feeling that he is the one and I am doing everything I can to make it possible for us to see each other. Only problem is that he doesn't fall in love easily. What can I do? :-(

Dartist, my story is so much like yours. Thank you for sharing your story, I am really happy for you both :) And it gives me more hope that one day me and my love will meet. <br />
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I am young adult from Australia and I have fallen in love with a young adult in New Zealand. We met about 5 months ago. We both share this feeling of love and we communicate at every opportunity we get. We think about each other all the time. He even dreams about me being with him, talking, laughing. <br />
I always get butterflies when he says something sweet or heart-felt to me. He says that he gets these butterflies too :) We both get a huge smile across our faces when we see messages from one another. <br />
He knows how to make me laugh, and I always make him laugh. He tells me that his cheeks hurt because he laughs and smiles so much when he talks to me.<br />
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It feels like I have known him my whole life and he tells me the same. He says that we could have known each other in a past life. <br />
He also tells me that his kitty is only near him when I talk to him.<br />
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It makes me sad when I yearn for him. I just want to touch him, listen to his voice, kiss him, hug him, feel him hold me tight. <br />
Every night when we say our byes, I just cant let go. I hate saying bye to him. It takes about 1hr or more to say bye sometimes.<br />
He makes jokes about coming to my house in the night, to watch me sleep =) <br />
Ive never met someone so much like me. A lot of the time, we think about the same things, do the same things and say the same things too. It amazes me. <br />
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When I told him that I did liked him after 3 months, he said that he liked me since the first few days of talking. <br />
We always talk about meeting and coincidentally, ive noticed a lot of things about New Zealand have been popping up in my life. Such as ads to travel to NZ, my classes at uni randomly talking about NZ, seeing people from NZ, footy card teams from NZ in chip packets. Maybe im just over-thinking it. <br />
I would really love to meet him. I think its about 5hours plane ride from Australia to New Zealand. At this point in time of my life, its just not possible. Im in my first year of studying at uni and live with my parents. They would not let me travel to NZ alone.<br />
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I am scared that one day we will stop talking to each other. He said that if that ever happens, then he has been so silly to let someone so special go.<br />
I love him so much and I tell him that everyday and so does he. <br />
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N.

Thank you so much for posting your story. It touched my heart and I really became emotional whilst reading it. The man I love is in Australia, literally the other side of the world to me, and I am but a mere university student who can no way afford those kind of flights.<br />
I yearn for him everyday and I can't bring myself to move on and find a guy here... But it happened for you, you got to meet your love, that brings me so much faith and hope that I too, will once day meet mine. Thank you again and I wish all the happiness in the world for you two.

Hi Jc and I understand that distance plays a role in your relationship. It appears that you have your studies to complete and then perhaps you can explore meeting your friend. Enjoy what you both have together and take care of yourself emotionally. Anything in life is possible. Hugs for that happy ending,D.

I fall in love with a chinese guy and i never thought i do. We just meet on QQ (chinese social network) by his friend. Although i've never met him but i can feel he is a very good guy, resposible, hard-working and has lots of same ideas with me. I really want to meet him but now i am in Australia to study uni... Furthermore, i am not chinese (language barriers). My family may not accpet because it's just an online love, nothing is sure... Sometimes he says "baby, let it be", it makes me a bit sad but he is right, i need to know the fact that we r too far...T_T <br />
After reading ur post, i feel much better now... Yeah, may be i will hope, but not too much... Thank mate, wish we all have happy ending. lol... ^_^ <br />
love, Jc.

Thank you everton13 for your comment. An update on us. We have met twice so far for six weeks in total and this shared time was so special. Both of us are moving closer to the time when we can be permanently together. Long distance relationships make great communications a must. As my dear best girlfriend told me, "You two have beaten the odds". We have but this took mutual devotion and knowledge on both of our parts. A constant moving forward on both of our parts and not without its share of difficult times. <br />
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The taste of what life will be like when we are finally together keeps focus and energy flowing between us. If love is possible between two strangers that met across thousands of miles and from different countries, then what can be in the future for those who yearn and long for this kind of connection? Members, you never know who might be just around the corner in your own lives? You may already know a special person whose love can change your path in an amazing way. He or she might be just a message away. Someone that you bump into buying groceries or at work. Sometimes recognizing this person is the difficult thing due to past hurts and pain. <br />
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In our case, overcoming distance and obstacles makes us stronger in our love. We used to sigh and wonder if we would ever get the chance to meet if only as friends but what has happened still is astounding. I remember writing and telling him that we are only a plane ride away. Look what has happened. What we both made happen. And that is the key. It is not enough to yearn and want. We turned our yearning into action. Our wanting into building the foundation of a shared life. <br />
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Not only do I love this man, I respect and admire him for his personal growth. He tells me that I showed him the way but he always had this in him. Now things in my life and his are moving forward so fast. This last time together keeps the law of attraction for us both growing as it is meant to be. I too have learned so much over the past few years and it is that human beings have the ability to change their lives. All we have to do is believe in ourselves and what we most desire and banish fears and negative thoughts. I hope our continuing story gives others belief that anything in life can happen. Blessings,D.

What a wonderful and beautiful story. I wish you both joy and happiness for the future. Thank you for sharing this wonderful story.

I wish you both all of the best in your desire to get together and share a life. It is hard being separated by such distance but anything in life is possible when two people share a deep and true love. Blessings to you both and I am happy that my story helped.

Thank you. Have been feeling so lost, thinking nobody else understood what its like being thousands of miles apart - different continents, cultures. It took a few years for us to realise that we loved each other, we had been speaking and messaging each other for 2 maybe 3 years before we admitted it. Been two years now since we met, still not managing to get together - his circumstances rather than mine (and yes he is single :p) but family disapprove strongly. Sometimes I feel that hope is all I have and it ain't always enough. Reading your post has helped me cling on a little longer to the hope liferaft. Thanks.