I Wish She Were Mine, But...

I can feel you on that man. Had a similar experience, all you can do is let it be and let her be happy and especially because its your best friend, if he means anything to you, you'll find a way to live with it. Stay hopeful man, she's not the only awesome lady in the world, there's plenty more. Hope you find someone just as awesome one day :)

A redo on my part:
I couldn't begin to understand how you must feel, but I hope one day you find someone who makes you feel like that and so much more!

I've been there, it really is painful. I'm sorry =(

Live with it. I was in the same boat and only I told her and now I have lost my two best friends. I still love her but now I don't get to see her and I thought that would help me move on but it doesn't. It is torture because no one else is good enough. Better to stay friends and you never know that one day they might break up.

ouch.. it really is sad to belong to someone else when the right one comes along.. but if u really prefer the best friend.. why don't u just tell ur girlfriend how u feel.. u know cant stay in a relationship when u don't feel happy anymore..its like wasting time

Whoa, that's rough. I guess there are quite a few options, but the main ones I can think of are move on and possibly live life wondering "what if?" or talk to your friend's girlfriend about this and consider the possibility that you may lose a friend. There's the other option of telling them both and trying to keep your distance for awhile to try and move on..Sort of like the first options put together I guess.. Whichever decision you make, you should always consider weighing what you will lose and/or gain from it. I know this isn't much help, but it just seems more realistic..

This is a very tough situation you are in. :( The mere fact that you acknowledged that you cannot have her is your realization of respect for your friendship with your best friend. Whenever I find myself in tricky situations like these, I always think about how I would feel if I were on the other side, in this case, how do you think you would feel if you had a girlfriend and found out that your bestfriend had feelings for her and openly admitted to it. If you think she is all worth it then you go ahead and do it especially if you can accept the possible consequences of your actions which may include losing both of them, among others.

Am sure you will find another girl for you. Best of luck! :)

never forget how you feel about her. you will find someone new and if you dont just now she is happy and maby she will make you happy, in some way :).

Damn. I can only imagine how much that sucks for you. :(



From reading your story, I've concluded two options for you. One, to just accept that you two aren't meant for each other and move on. This one will take time and it will probably hurt like hell, especially since she's your best friend's girl - which means you will see her often, with her boyfriend. The second option, is to throw caution to the wind and tell her how you really feel. It's risky and levelling danger waters, but if you do this, there will be no 'if only's' or 'what if's'.



Anyway, no matter what opinion I tell you, in the end, it all boils down to the decision being your call. I just hope that you choose what you think is best.



PS. Your situation reminded me of the song 'If I Don't Tell You Now' by Ronan Keating. If you haven't heard it yet, you should. It totally fits your story.



Good luck on making the right choice! :)

ouch that sucks .... well i guess everyone has those things he cant get...... so you just move on and hope for the best