Help Restore His Pride..
I'll begin with a short backstory..my boyfriend/child's father is 30 years old, has had 20 blood clots and is currently awaiting surgery approval to have his lungs and pulmonary artery cleared of past clots, it is an open heart surgery only performed in 2 hospitals in the U.S. He is on oxygen part-time and can no longer work, he has been this way for the last year and a half. Now knowing this, here is my story: We went to a bigger department store in the mall for black friday, we had got winter clothes and boots for our daughter and had headed to the checkout when he ran into a man he hasn't seen since he was 18, thats 12 years! Now when they were younger the had a falling out got in a fight, the other guy later apologized, and they havnt spoken since, but he walks up talking a whole bunch of garbage, like their fight happened yesterday, my bf didnt even recognize him at first. My bf did not talk junk back and was just trying to brush this guy off knowing in his condition he cant do much to defend himself(which the other guy did know about due to being associated with my bfs cousin) after about a minute of trashtalk he dug his head into my bfs forehead (weird) my bf pushed back then he punched him in the face, knocking out a contact and resulting in a black eye, my bf fell to a knee went to stand back up and the guy punched him again my bf caught himself on a bench(it was in the shoe depmt) and this guy went to go jump on him so I stepped in front of him and punched the guy in the face, I couldnt watch this guy give my bf a heart attack, after this the guy ran outside (probably due to the huge crowd black friday brings or the call to security) Now my boyfriend physically healed except for a bruise but he is emotionally damaged. Before his health took a turn for the worse he was such a strong man and this made him feel weaker and more helpless than anything has. He's filled with a rage he can't do anything about, his pride is hurt and he's so down on himself, he had been so positive up until this, and I have no idea how to help him or what to say to him. I feel aweful, and I cant get the image out of my head of the middle of the fight, it was a point of pure weakness. I feel terrible for him. If you have taken the time to read this, thank you. I also appreciate any advice.