How Do I Get the Finances to Move to My Husband's Post?
Hi. my name is jessica and i have recently been inducted as an official army wife. my husband's training was delayed at fort benning when he hurt his back, so i havent seen him since june. he is expected to graduate in mid-october, and then get sent to fort gordon for his AIT. he will be there for a year since his training will be interrupted by the birth of our son, so he is wanting us to move down there to be with him as much as possible. we are living in columbus, oh right now.
what my question is, is this...how am i supposed to get the finances to move before his graduation? since he is down there, and cant sign for a bank loan, i cant do anything on my end. he has been trying to gather information about how to get some money for us to move with, but hasnt been able to find many options. that's the impression i get at least, since he cant, or doesnt want to, really answer my questions about what he's looking into when i do get to talk to him. is there any way to make moving to wherever he is sent any easier on our finances, and is it a good idea getting money from the army somehow to finance it? if so, then how do we go about doing this? i have so many questions, i just hope someone can help me understand all this.
i dont have support from my family. they would rather see me stay in one place and not see him at all for the next 4 years that he is in service than to try to follow him to all his posts. am i really being ridiculous in thinking that mvoing is a good idea? we have a daughter, and now expecting a son in january, and i dont want them growing up without knowing who their father is. is that too hard of a thing for me to accomplish? is it really a bad idea to try to stay with him? or am i really expected to give up that too?
i need so much help! what do i do? i want to stay with him as much as possible, but have no way of knowing how to come up with the money to make this move in a few weeks.