In Perimenopause

I am a 46 year old Mother of one and I just entered perimenopause. I hate it all, the hot flashes, dry skin, headaches and for me a period every 7 days! I think having the frequent periods is the worst for me, plus my nerves are shot and some days the depression gets so bad I want to just sleep all day. But unfortunately I cannot do that because along with perimenopause I am also the mother of a 8 year old child with Cerebral Palsy who cannot walk/ talk and is dependent on me 24/7. She is my joy the love of my life, she also means no sick days for Mom, I even homeschool because our Public school system sucks. I am just glad to find a place where others are going through this too, all of my friends are younger than me so I tend to not talk about it with them. I hope I learn a lot here and am better at coping with this new thing in my life....
md3672 md3672
46-50, F
4 Responses Jan 6, 2013

I'm sorry you are going through such a hard time. I can relate to a lot of your symptoms. I have days, also in which I want to stay in bed because I'm depressed. Some days I feel like I'm in a fog and I now have psoriasis. I have a 15 yr. old daughter with autism who I homeschool along with her 9 yr. old sister. It's hard because some days I can't give 100%. For me, it's a day to day thing. Some days I actually feel good and accomplish a good bit. But I try not to feel bad or guilty on days I can't do as well.

Hope you are doing ok. I feel for you. I started too- my biggest is depression and no energy. I tried everything under the sun and finally started bio-identical hormones. Was a rough start because I was desperate for relief I put too much estrogen and it made my depression worse. So now I cut back and it seems a little better. If you can get your hands on Emerita progesterone cream and follow the instruction, it will help you. For natural help - Take vitamin b (emotional booster and energy), d (depression plus bone), e (hot flashes), magnesium(calm and help with heart palps), valerian herb for anxiety and sleep. 5-htp for seratonin increase but it will take about 3-4 weeks. The biggest for me is the bio-identical hormones - helped with foggy mind, dry eyes, aches, sleep but emotion is still there, which was my biggest complaint.

Best of luck to you!

I totally sympathise with you and understand where you are coming from.

We all want a magic answer but I'm realising there isn't one and it's a case of taking each day as it comes, being kind to yourself and don't expect too much of yourself and try not to put too much pressure on yourself either-easier said than done!

I find it good to come on here and read other people's stories and realise you're not alone or going nuts!

Take care

Hello I just started peri this summer and its aweful im having a hard time adjusting to it and I dont feel like the same person anymore,my moods changed I dont sleep im always,tired and the anxiety and depression got so bad I had to take a leave from work . I have 3 kids 22 19 and 3 and a half im usually an active person but since this all started all I wanna do is lay around I have no energy and,i feel sick all the time .what symptoms does anyone else have?

What I miss the most is SLEEP!!!! I don't fall asleep usually until 3 or 4 in the morning. I am so tired the next day. I also get anxiety often. Some days I can't leave my house. I have dry skin so bad. My head is often in a fog. I have trouble concentrating also. I'm at a point right now where I don't know who I am. Just hang in there. I know there's got to be light at the end of this tunnel.