Upset Wife

I have been married 2 years. My husband wears diapers to sleep because of bladder issues he promised he would go to the doc to get his problem fixed. He went and got meds for his prostate but he rarely took them. I told him i can't stand the sight of his diapers and i don't want to hear or think about his problem and i will not touch him if its in my mind. What can i do to help him?

An Ep User An EP User
4 Responses Jan 15, 2013

You could support him more. It is not his fault. I wet the bed and have increasing continence issues during the day. I have learned to live with it and get on with life. It isn't the end of the world. A nappy or incontinence wear is just another kind of underwear. Be thankful that yopu have control of your bladder and think about how your husband would be with you if the boot was on the other foot. I honestly don't know why incontinence and bedwetting should be a barrier to a loving and intimate relationship.

I would say try walking in his shoes. This problem isn't his. It's yours. Everyone is one accident away from becoming incontinent. Something to think about.

How about catheterize him? This will get rid of the diapers and he may like that better.

accept him for who he is and move on