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Not Sure If Just a Booty Call...asked Him N He Assures Me I Am Not

Met this fella online, had first date, and we both got a bit drunk, had fab time n had sex...next day he dropped me back to my car and gave me kiss, and I was sure I would never hear again.  Well, he started calling n texting me up to several times a day...I saw hime few times after, he telling me where he was going and who he was with etc n telling me I wasnt just casual to him.  I got a bit jealous at one point and he said that he didnt want to see me as I reminded him of his ex.  Fast forward few weeks, and he was calling me wanting to catch up.....now I hear from him infrequently, and when planning to spend night together, he has something that comes up after we have had sex...and keeps assuring me I am not just casual, but due to pyscho ex, cannot have relstionship for another few months (he moving).  He seems legit but at same time I am doubting what he says, as he used to call me all the time before I had jealous turn...confused as hell.

Yeah have heard the whole me being a **** etc, but he was VERY keen, and now I am feeling a bit used...but I am prone to feeling insecure...comments appreciated.  Maybe I should cut him off?
blue0202 blue0202 26-30, F 6 Responses Dec 12, 2007

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well it went from there...on again n off again, then i got pregnant

If it was an online sex on the first meeting thing most likely it was for sex. You have said you both were intoxicated so you shouldnt expect more from it than that.<br />
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If it was an online sex on the first meeting thing most likely it was for sex. You have said you both were intoxicated so you shouldnt expect more from it than that.<br />
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http://BootyCallNetwork.Net

Thanks guys. I have actually told him I have been feeling used, and asked that we cool it for a bit. I felt like for the first time in a while I have asserted some level of self respect.

If you want my honest opinion...i think he is playing you. I think he is mixed up. I also think he only wants you when it's convenient for him. I have been through this and I know how it works. I am not trying to hurt you or your feelings..but only giving you my take on things from where I am sitting....

Sounds like he was genuinely interested in you, and then you scared him off with your insecurity, as manifest by your jealous moment.<br />
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Now, because of the issues <i>he</i> has with insecurity (thanks to his bad relationships in the past), he can't emotionally commit to you because you seem very dangerous to him.<br />
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Thus he can't do more than the physical stuff, because his emotions won't let him. <br />
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I doubt he's using you in a callous way, but that doesn't change the actual nature of the relationship you have with him, that he isn't able to develop anything deeper. For the moment at least.<br />
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As for what you should do, that really is up to you!<br />
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Perhaps reflect on this though:<br />
1) If you feel that sleeping with him when he treats you like this is not how you want it to be, then cut off the sex. You may or may not want to tell him why you are doing this.<br />
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2) Really, you are probably best served by working on your insecurity. Easier said than done, but obviously it is causing some problems for you. And all other things being equal, it would no doubt always be a problem between you and him.