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All I Really Want For Christmas

My Airman keeps asking me what I want for Christmas. He gets to come home ten days for the holiday so I  tell him all I want is to spend everyday with you. I tell my friends what I really want is a ring. I really just want a commitment while he is away. I want to spend the rest of my life with him, but I understand we have only been together four months. I dream about it night and day. I need advice
wingwoman wingwoman 18-21, F 6 Responses Nov 28, 2011

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yea i mean I want to be with him forever its just so hard being so far apart I feel if we get married it would be easier I could go visit him. The ba<x>se he is at wont let me on without all kinds of permission but these other girls with a Military Id I want that I could move on ba<x>se with him I would do anything just to beable to see him

Mhmm I agree with the above comment. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years, and I know I want to be with him forever, but some guys just aren't ready for marriage yet. It doesn't mean that they don't want to be married to you, it just means that... marriage is a big responsibility. My boyfriend and I have talked about it, and the main thing is he wants to be settled, with a career and stuff before he gets married. He wants to be ready to take care of another life other than his own. It doesn't mean he doesn't want to marry me in the future, but he wants to know that he can take care of me financially, that we're both done with school and in our careers. I used to take it personally, but after we talked about it I realized that he doesn't mean he loves me any less, it just means that we're both young... And we can see ourselves with each other in the future, and when the time is right it will happen, but marriage isn't just something you can jump into because of love... a good marriage has to be thought out and prepared for, financially and in other ways. Don't worry, everything will come in time! The smart thing is to not let emotions get the best of you... Because if you can make it through this you can make it through anything!

I dont want to be single. I want him for the rest of my life. Its so complicating I just really want a comittment.

why if he ask what you really want is to marry him so that anywhere he is your with him thats the right thing to do...unless you feel you still want to be single for long?

We have only been together 4 months and I really want to tell him but I just cant. I dont want him to feel like he has to. We have known eachother forever I just dont know.

Tell him that, tell him that you want to spend the rest of your life with him and that it would mean so much to you if you guys were to commit (even if that means just a promise ring.) My airman and I are getting married when he comes home for christmas and he hasnt even technically proposed lol. I wrote him in a letter and told him that all I want for christmas is him and him coming home is more than enough. But id love to get married, and i told him to think about it and id understand if he wants to wait. But i told him dont tell me your answer until you come home. but at the end of that week he called me and the very first thing he said was "YES" and I was so confused.. I was like What? And he was like the answer to your question in letter #17 is yes. Lol. So just ask him and if you write him and ask him im sure itd be much more convincing because atleast for me I get my feelings out better on paper rather than trying to speak it.