I Am Kink Tolerant
The thing about kinks is that we each have our own interpretation of what a kink is. It's very subjective.
I can remember (perhaps thirty years ago) a man sharing with me how shocked he was at discovering his wife in bed with another guy and engaged in oral sex. It seemed that he was more shocked at WHAT she was doing for him, than the actual fact of her infidelity. For him, ******** was a kink and something quite outrageous.
I've always remembered that encounter and his explanation of how upset he was that his wife would do that with another man. I suppose also it's a level of intimacy that some people find only tolerable with a life partner. I'm not sure.
Same goes for nudity. For some (judging by stories here on EP) nudity is quite shocking and kinky. Sleeping naked is considered daring. Or not wearing underwear pretty outrageous. Again, it's very subjective isn't it?
My own personal experience of "kinks" has been a mixture really. When I was younger, I suppose the most kinky thing I was exposed to was anal sex. My first husband was pretty inexperienced, as was I and our first and only attempt was a disaster and we gave up very quickly.
I'd always known that men were into **** and ************ and from my teens and early twenties onwards, I accepted that it was something that all men enjoyed. So I never considered it a kink at all, but just part of healthy curiosity for red-blooded males. Not that I didn't think women liked it, far from it ... I knew of my own fondness for pornographic stories and images from pretty early on ... particularly homo-erotica which I still find very hot.
Later, in my thirties, I think being asked to pee in a guy's mouth struck me as somewhat kinky. It was the first time I'd been asked to do this, and for this particular guy it was quite the normal thing to request (not that I complied incidentally, but just saying he did ask!). With this same guy, anal sex was also a regular and part of our repertoire. So that became less of a kink and therefore, in my mind, normalised.
I guess it's part of exposure and what we consider acceptable isn't it? In more recent years, I really do think that anything goes as far as I'm concerned. Certain things I find pretty distasteful and would choose not to engage with - the pee and poop stuff and so on - but very little shocks me any more.
As for sharing my own personal kinks with someone - I do think it takes a huge amount of trust to share with someone. But again it depends on what we define as a kink ...
I'd say that I'm very kink tolerant, nothing shocks or surprises me these days, but I suspect that's what comes with maturity ...
I can remember (perhaps thirty years ago) a man sharing with me how shocked he was at discovering his wife in bed with another guy and engaged in oral sex. It seemed that he was more shocked at WHAT she was doing for him, than the actual fact of her infidelity. For him, ******** was a kink and something quite outrageous.
I've always remembered that encounter and his explanation of how upset he was that his wife would do that with another man. I suppose also it's a level of intimacy that some people find only tolerable with a life partner. I'm not sure.
Same goes for nudity. For some (judging by stories here on EP) nudity is quite shocking and kinky. Sleeping naked is considered daring. Or not wearing underwear pretty outrageous. Again, it's very subjective isn't it?
My own personal experience of "kinks" has been a mixture really. When I was younger, I suppose the most kinky thing I was exposed to was anal sex. My first husband was pretty inexperienced, as was I and our first and only attempt was a disaster and we gave up very quickly.
I'd always known that men were into **** and ************ and from my teens and early twenties onwards, I accepted that it was something that all men enjoyed. So I never considered it a kink at all, but just part of healthy curiosity for red-blooded males. Not that I didn't think women liked it, far from it ... I knew of my own fondness for pornographic stories and images from pretty early on ... particularly homo-erotica which I still find very hot.
Later, in my thirties, I think being asked to pee in a guy's mouth struck me as somewhat kinky. It was the first time I'd been asked to do this, and for this particular guy it was quite the normal thing to request (not that I complied incidentally, but just saying he did ask!). With this same guy, anal sex was also a regular and part of our repertoire. So that became less of a kink and therefore, in my mind, normalised.
I guess it's part of exposure and what we consider acceptable isn't it? In more recent years, I really do think that anything goes as far as I'm concerned. Certain things I find pretty distasteful and would choose not to engage with - the pee and poop stuff and so on - but very little shocks me any more.
As for sharing my own personal kinks with someone - I do think it takes a huge amount of trust to share with someone. But again it depends on what we define as a kink ...
I'd say that I'm very kink tolerant, nothing shocks or surprises me these days, but I suspect that's what comes with maturity ...
By:
womaninbliss
Age:
51-55
,
Female
