So ConfusedI have been married for almost 10 years. We were married in our mid 30's and after waiting for what seemed like forever I met my husband and we had a wounderful beginning. My husband is an alcholic and I knew this when I married him but over the last 3 years its been getting worse and his sex drive has gone to nothing. At first we had sex all the time. Two three times a day. Then he started not being able to perform. Stay hard. At first I thought it was me then the more I read and researched I realized it was not me it is him. Now, for the last year or so he has had no desire to have sex at all. I dont know if it's because he just doesnt have any desire or the alchole has numbed him to any feeling down there and he just can not get an erection. I have talked to him regarding his lack of desire and the fact that there are options avaiable to him regarding sex and his lack of getting an erection but he doesnt want to hear any of it. He thinks it is normal to not have sex and says that if I dont like it then I have to make these choices for myself.
I love him I truly love him with all of my heart but I want to have sex. I want to have sex for hours and not stop. I am not much of the cuddle, touchie feelie type person I just want sex. I want sex with my husband and if I cant have that, is it wrong to have it with someone else? I dont want to leave my husband. In every other aspect of my life with him we get along great. We have a perfect relationship otherwise. He is still the person I want to spend the rest of my life with and my best friend. I dont even think it would bother him if I did have an affair as long as he doesnt know anything about the details. I am so confused. I dont even know where to go with this. Any Advice?
bjbsipe 46-50, F 7 Responses 0 Nov 21, 2012