A while back I posted an experience about me being terribly unhappy with the man i had been with for almost 8 years. I just wanted to give an update on that experience. Two months ago my "bestfriend" called me while I was on my way home from work, she was crying. I didn't know what was going on with her but I could tell by her voice that it was something bad. I kept asking her what the hell was going on but when she said "I slept with Derrick." I couldn't breathe. Derrick is the person that I was in a relationship with. I didn't know what to say. I hung up on her and went straight to our apartment and packed mine And my child's things. I showed up at my dad's house with my bags and explained to him what was going on. I was thankful that he opened his home to us. I told Derrick that it was over and I knew what had happened. He admitted to it and apologized(not that I wanted an apology) so...... I have not spoken to her at all. As for him, I talk to him ONLY about our daughter.

As for me , I'm doing fantastic. for the first time in my life, I feel free. I'm ready to discover who I am and what I want. I take what happened as a lesson learned. Never trust anyone too much. I trusted this girl with my life and in the end she didn't think twice when she spread her legs IN MY BED. And never hold onto something that's long gone. I told myself so many times to leave, but I wouldn't. I waited for something horrible to happen.
ShaiLayne ShaiLayne
22-25, F
3 Responses Aug 18, 2014

"Never hold onto something that's long gone."

I totally needed to hear that today! I tend to doubt myself when I break up with somebody and I regret it (breaking up), I think about all the good times and then I get sad and I get stuck in a rut where I think about what could have been if only things were different. But I've learned that if things were meant to work out, they would have, and all the daydreaming I do about what could have been is just time wasted. I also tend to see the guy as being better than he actually was. I guess once it's over I sort of idealize the guy and that's partly where my regret comes from, even tho I know deep down he wasn't all that and he wasn't good for me.

I'm sorry you had to go thru all that stuff, but I'm glad to hear you are doing much better. You deserve a guy who will be loyal and faithful to you. And you also deserve friends who understand what it means to be true friends.

All the best! :)

U r so blessed to b able to leave and have a parents house to go to. Its horrible if u r not in a financial position to do so and are imprisoned in a life u cant change

Congrats on a new life and look forward to discovering yourself again :) I am sure you and your daughter will be very happy :)

Thank you very much❤️