Les Be Serious

I am a 21-year old woman who is currently in a relationship with a 24-year old woman. We have been happily together for almost a year now, and although the companionship is still very much young, we are pleased and very much satisfied with each other emotionally and sexually. I myself am fully homosexual and have never been sexual with a man. I have no desire or animalistic-instinct to be with a man. My partner on the other hand, considers herself bisexual, but to be obviously and increasingly more attracted to women than men. She would rather herself and sees herself growing old with a woman rather than a man.

She has had numerous sexual encounters with both males and females (not while being with me). She explains this to me as a natural part of her wants, physical needs and being aroused. I understand the "want" she explains.. wanting to feel a man or a woman or the way one makes love to the other..simply because the sex is different, but it is possible to mimic and or simulate the feeling of sex with a man between two woman (...if you get what I mean ;)..
But my only problem with the situation considering I don't desire men, is imagining my woman, my love, being sexual with another just for pure "sexual pleasure"- man or woman. Strictly a physical entity. Am I being unfair in not being accepting to the fact that from time to time my bisexual woman would want to have permission to have sex with a man? Might I remind you I am fully homosexual. Would it be the same if I were to ask to be sexual with other women since I don't seek male attention? I do not want an open relationship and she respects my want. But the conversation has arose numerous times now. I can't help but to say that I would feel the relationship somewhat tainted afterwards if she would go about perusing her wish, only to come home and lay next to me in our bed, after she's been touched the way that only I touch her, by someone else. Is this because I am younger than her, or because I would just rather not share my girlfriend and lover.

Why can't we be pleased with each other, instead of risking and damaging the relationship or one or the others emotions for 30 minutes of cheep meaningless sex with another? Am I in the wrong here?? Isn't an affair, still an affair despite which sexual preference you are? And if you are not in an open relationship?
comohomo comohomo
22-25, F
1 Response Sep 12, 2012

Your not in the wrong at all. That would be horribly wrong of her. I myself supposed to be considered bi sexual I don't see or sleep with men anymore and havnt in a few years now. But I have. Yes sometimes the thought or urge crosses my mind but id never act on it. Cheating is cheating there's no other way to put it. You wouldn't wander off with abother woman. Just because its not the same sex doesn't mean it wouldn't violate your love. Simply your right to feel your way. She is wrong than to ever ask.