To Be Or Not To Be

I have been in a relation for 10 years.I was in love and got married and few months later realized that the relation wasn't going any where.
Ever since then I have tried to get out of it but there was always something that got in the way.Now I have my financial independence
and I still feel that I should leave him.The problem is I am scared of being lonely what if I never find anyone again.
I want to have someone in my life who is there unconditionally and supports me.Me and my husband have nothing in common
and it feels like we live like two strangers under 1 roof.Time is flying by and I am confused as ever.I don't know what to do.
To divorce him or to continue ..............
longings longings
5 Responses Jul 22, 2010

Divorce him. Life is to short to be pretending.

Deep inside you know that this is not going to work, your relationship can't go any further I'm sure you know this and you feel it every second you enter your house and whenever you look at your husband...if this is how you feel get out of're already alone, give yourself a chance, and as my grand mother says you'll not gonna be young and beautiful for ever, so go find your soul mate its there somewhere waiting for you, may be he's feeling the same way, don't waist your time, your life and yourself.<br />
hugz from enzoenzo :)

Thanks for the input.Yes we talked like a million times.The problem is we are so different in how we think that relating becomes difficult.There is nothing common to talk about.Over time we have grown apart and we still keep living together.I feel it's one life I should be with the person I can connect with<br />
have a similar plane of understanding.If i continue to live like this I will eventually regret and be embittered about it.And then there is this morbid fear that stops me from taking the steps I feel I should be taking.

to flee or not to flee, that is the question. <br />
wheather tis nobler in the mind to suffer the snoring and raised toilet seats, <br />
or to take up arms against a sea of waiting men<br />
and by flirting win them?<br />
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to sleep perchance with some one else<br />
To grunt and sweat under a weary lover<br />
<br />
ah shake-spear you slay me!<br />
<br />
ask yourself who shakes your tree, <br />
or as mumma says if the boats a rocking, don't come a knocking

Talk to him.Its something i think you must do.Why wasnt the relation going good?There has to be good communication for the marrage to work.