Can't Make New Friends; Zero ConfidenceSo its been 4 days since ive been on this website and I've given some advice to a few people... But now it feels kinda weird asking for advice, even though I sorta know the answer... I am 21 years old... Back in 9th grade (when i was 14), a friend of mine, suddenly became one of the popular kids in school. Initially, I used to hang out with them too, but something went wrong. She turned against me, started spreading rumours about me. (I am fat and I don't look like a glam queen... and I felt that was the reason she didnt wanna be friends with me anymore. That was a big hit to my self esteem. She was my friend since childhood, about 10 years! ans poof, all of a sudden she doesn't wanna be friends with me? So I distanced myself from them, thinking that once I move on to college (thats 11th grade) I'll make new ones. Alas, I couldn't, because of my insecurities, my complicated issues with myself. Then I thought, I'd make friends during my internship (which lasted for 3 years)... But I failed there as well. Today, I am 21, with no friends (except one or two), absolutely no social life. I wake up, study, eat, play random games on facebook and go to sleep. The cycle continues. I know I am a good person and that I do have a great sense of humor. But I don't know how to make friends. I really want a social life, I want friends, I wanna be there for people. What I don't understand is, everyone in my family says that the minute I learn to love myself, friends will come in my life. I wonder how? Will people just mystically get attracted towards me if i up my confidence? If so, how the hell do I get my confidence back? Am happy though to have been blessed with a loving family.
Will appreciate any comments on this.
Hopingforabetterfuture 18-21 7 Responses 4 Jan 27, 2012