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I am very sorry to hear that....believe me there women out there too who get taken advantage I am one of them I am very given in a relationship and a guy notice that and suddenly takes me for granted and expects me to be that way all the time,my husband complaint about the same thing when I met him but I am like him like you and now after a while he is the one who is like those women he always hated with me...go figure...:-( but anyways....I guess you always pick without knowing it the same type of women to date hang out with I read a book about it once..you will have to break the habbit...look back is it always the same type of women look wise or characteristic? If so try to change what you look for and tell a women front up u always get used, so she knows you not an idiot and know what's happening to you...just keep looking protect yourself from this ...you right I know lots of men that run into women like this but also lots of women who are like you and me....why won't they meet?? I don't know because they may think they don't deserve more...I hope u will find someone nice one day everyone deserves the happily ever after! But sometimes its Better to be alone then be surrounded by ppl that are not really interested in you! And putting your Hoyle happiness in one person is wrong anyway it should be a gain fulfillment to your already happy life...maybe then the focuse of being alone isn't so bad and painful anymore...

That's an expensive lesson, but just imagine how much more expensive a divorce would've been.

You go thru life one day at a time but only once. when I give people money its a gift a tell them its not a loan (that is in the bible soemwhere). I only require them to help another in the future when they can. Now a 1200 loan is differnt. you can take her to small claims court but first you need to send her a certifide letter spelling out a way to pay it back. Make a copy of it and keep the part that says she received it. If you dont pursure the claim in court at least you asked for your money back and gave her a way/plan to pay it back. Cut her off as a firend and block her number. Like I told my brother once "sure I will give you back your tools I got out of pawn for you .. once you pay me the $300.00 it cost to get them out." I still have them its been 20 years. You deserve to be treated better as we all do.

I once helped a guy who ran outta gas. His wife ran it out so he thought. I picked him up on the way back with the gas. Found out it wasnt gas it was a timing belt wasnt alowing the car to crank up. I towed him to his house and it took us 7 or 8 hours to fix it.

His wife was mad he didnt leave with some friends who came by to pick them up to goto church that Wed night. She asked with such a suspicious disaproving look what is it that you want from us??? I said 'I requiring nothing only that you help another when you can." I saw this fello a few years later he had 3 small kids at the time and was unemployed going to med tech school. It was his only vehicle. When he saw me he huged me at a hospital I was working at and was so happy to tell me of what a great inpiration it was to help him. Im a superintendent and sometimes I have 10 to 15 people working under me building hospitals and schools. We do the galass in them. I dont walk around witha clipboard talking all day I lead by example and do the hard technical stuff as well as sweep and pick up trash we make. Im not to important to do it. Problem is I look the part of some dirty contruction worker. Im not the type to constantly comb my hair at work so I can look a lil gruff. I was pleased the way the other hospital people started treating me better when this guy told them what I did. I was remodeling that hospital for 3 years. Surely it was not for the accolaids but it was for the joy or helping another in thier time of need.

THIS IS THE POINT. You truly will be a better person not from what others can do for you, but what you do for others. Wether strangers or family or friends. With that said you choose to do what you can and when. When you cant do something or think you shouldnt ... just say so and go on your way. Dont feel bad becasue you cant help everyone. Be content with what you can do. I have problems with that myself when to say no ... lol I dont and man do I regret. Its so sad in my heart to regret helping someone who dosnet appreciate it or deserve it.

The most love I ever felt for my wife was when she was diagnosed with cancer and thru the 2 years of hell tring to help her at home work and raise a 2 yearold. I just loved her more each day becasue of what I was doing for her. I dont know how to explain it. If your in a relationship and want to mend it start doing things for the other. Things you know they want or things they want done and havent asked you. If they do ask you ... then do it without bitterness. Bitteness harders your heart and thiers. I lost her to cancer and I wish sometimes I said this or that or dint say or do something that irritated her. I know in my heart I did what I could.

One thing to be proud of is that you did say no. This would give you the courage to do it again and not allow anyone to take advantage of you. It takes a while to discover our inner strengths, however once we do we can spot those "users" a mile away. Remember that you're the winner in this situation, you at least cared to help.
Enjou your day

I"m very sorry I am very sweet and nice I have helped many guys I have been hurt used lied to I have had guy tell me what I want to here I"m sorry.

I am sorry you have had to meet the kind of women who have used you and taken advantage of you. For all the ones who are like this, there are many more who are not. Just like, there are many men who are players, but many who are not. I hope now that you are standing up for yourself, you attract the right kind of women.

Its the other way around with me. I have met guys that take advantage of me for my car, money then verbally abuse me. SO tired of it. Now im alone and afraid it will happen again when ever I meet someone again.

Sometimes the need or desire to be "accepted" causes us to do things that we dont understand. People who "wear their heart on their sleeve" so to speak are often victims of this. Also being lonely contributes a great deal to this as well. Having low self worth and feelings of inadequecy tend to play their roles as well. The main thing her e is that you do NOT loose sight of who YOU are.......a person who is loving, kind and trusting. There is someone out there for you who will appreciate YOU for YOU and not just for what you can give to them or do for them, etc. GOD has a plan for each and every one of us......do'nt ever feel stupid for trusting........don't loose your self worth because you were the victim of someone else's evil deed.......GOD see all and knows all and hears all.....and let me clarify I am not saying to be door mat or tissue paper here......I am saying NOT to loose your self worth and the person you are deep down inside as a result of someone else's bad behavior.......trust in GOD and be the person that GOD meant for you to be......and he will handle the rest of it.............

First off I would like to apologize on behalf of the women in this world that take advantage of any person or situation. Also please keep in my that life is about learning, and you can't learn unless you try and fail. But the defition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting deferent results.

I'd rather be lonely and let that person hit the road, then have them in my life to use me.

I'm kind of like you, though a little bit more messed up! :P

But seriously speaking, I know what it is like. I'm sorry you're going through this. Hope things get better for you.

And please don't try to "block out" the feelings of rejection by getting busy with work and school. Get out there and have fun :) Just remember to be assertive when someone tries to take advantage of you.

To drumming guy i was just board read your word and had to laugh the way you are is me im finding out all good things come in time and friendship slow down know who your really getting with be best friends first before you date or you will regret it every time i did .lonliness is a trap for the weak.

"Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds."
- Albert Einstein

So, Mr DrummingGuy, I read your story and wanted to comment. Then I read all the comments you already got. As you said in a comment, this was actually written two years ago!



I am glad for two things :



1 - People comment to stories, no matter when they are written.



2 - And more importantly, you have found someone! I am so glad to have read that in your comment. You have now become an inspiration for the thousand and thousands out there who are nice and THINK that they do not look good; and so will ever remain single. (I think I will post a link of this story to people who think in this way on EP). Hope you are enjoying your life to the fullest.



Thank you

You are a wonderful man, don't ever forget that. Sometimes you may be too kind to others, but it's only because you care. BUT, you do need to take care of yourself as well. I learned that the hard way. You need to draw a line and, I know it's hard, but you need to put a limit as to what you will do or what you will give. I can tell you from experience, it's not an easy thing to do, but you need to think about yourself as well. Don't let others run you into the ground...

You've got to stick up for yourself. Of course there are going to be ****** up people in the world who are going to take advantage of whatever and whoever but you can't let that happen. Don't isolate yourself either because that will just lead to more loneliness and isolation and then when you try to interact with people again it will be extremely difficult (personal experience). But you DO have to love yourself for who you are and know that it takes very special people (not a lot) to truly love you back so stand up for yourself and don't let people push you around and people will respect you for that. Try to keep your nice guy act up also though you don't want to lose yourself in the process, I've seen it happen. After a while people will realize your the type of person they want to be around if you just have enough confidence in yourself. And if you really don't, fake it. :)

Why do most men take advantage of nice honest women?

You've met the wrong person. But i can understand how you feel. Beyond all, let me tell you something - sometimes its better to be by yourself, absorbed in work and studies, than to meet wrong people. I am doing the same- working to the point of exhaustion...after which i cant think of anything and just go to bed and try to get a dreamless sleep. Its better than getting hurt. But don't let this isolation keep you from loving yourself. You've got such a precious human life. Its ok to protect it from being hurt. But don't doubt your own charm and brightness. Make your own beautiful life...no matter how alone you might feel...no matter how hard.

I feel like Im surrounded by do many unattractive guys because they are cocky and flirtatious and use other women. In addition, some of the men are seriously unattractive and yet they are STILL full of themself. I wish I could meet more nice guys like you. I'm afraid if going into a relationship or making new fruends because I feel like they're only around me because they want something from me. I'm sure your attractive in some physical respect and once a girl worth liking, whether it be an average or extraordinary looking girl, she will be more physically attracted to you because of how well you treat her. You have to Fo yourself a favor by continuing to stand up for yourself when cominh scross self-absorbed women. You deserve better. I don't know when that day will come when you find the right girl, but don't lose your benevolent personality because that is that makes you more attractive than the typical physically attractive male.

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...ok more words. It sounds like your image plays a role in your self-esteem (like for most people) but you are not satisfied with your image. Probably why you went and got that tattoo (I'd have it removed), but of course it's all relative and the decision to get one is rooted in a deeper issue even. I can't read your mind so all I would think to suggest is lose the glasses. And go vegan. But I tell anyone who's looking for advice to go vegan. Wait, did you ask for advice? Do it anyway.

As a girl I want to apologize for every girl whose used you.Every girl must prove that she deserves to be treated like a princess.And in turn she should treat her man well too. Relationships are about give and take not just taking.These girls take advantage of you because they've figured out how to play you. Maybe it's the type of women you date.To get rid of your loneliness maybe you should join a club or something. I know your afraid but the idea of "me,myself and I can make you feel pretty lonely.Just by reading your story I can tell that your unconfident in yourself.Confidence is key.

Helo there lonely one :). I'm not quite sure how to put my words out without hurting your feelings.You seem very sensitive,but at the same time you are needing the imput from everyone.



So, may be blunt with my comment to you if that's allright with you?



Facts;



You are the male who courtship the female.



Friends,girlfriends it is expected of you to dish out(spend the money).



Being friends with ladies never expect payment in return as it will never happen.



Now if you want your loan money to be paid in return then make it official.



Sign document as a promised to be paid with signature of the borrower.



Now a days you will have difficulties finding someone without the intention of wants and needs that you are expected to provide at every whim.



Being tough and saying no is one thing.Speaking of anger in regards of loan money is another.



Be blunt how you want someone to treat you and that means clear the air before it goes any further.



We learn life from our mistakes,and as we make those mistakes it makes us stronger and do the right thing.



So next time stupid mistakes will never happen again.



Learn from it and grow out of it and that means move on and find someone else that will suit your taste and likes.



Much Love and God Bless



PreciousObiOne



Diana

i'm so proud of you!

don't sell yourself short man!

I know how you feel man, im the exact same way. I don't care if I have to go to the moon and back to make her happy. All I want is to see her smile once more. But she uses that to her advantage and I hate it. I really care for her but i don't know that she does back. I'm so confused because the way she acts is like a roller coaster, one day its one way and tomarow it's another. :(

I know exactly how you feel!!! Though Im a women myself, I understand the being used part. I commend you for standing up for yourself, and just keep those brats out of your life, your personality will outshine anything. Wait for the girl who can see that, and don't worry about the rest :)

Women only hurt you because they're afraid of being hurt too. Believe me, I'm a girl (:

I feel sadness for the treatment you've received. So many of us yearn for affection and validation of our selves and a caring friend and/or lover. It has been my experience that it is very difficult to find someone like that. I hope your life gets better and you allow yourself to be treated better.

Ugh, I hate people like that. It seems people like that are either too lazy to fend for themselves, or they still have that special level of immaturity that allows you to ride off your parents late into adulthood... except it's projected on to others.



Anyway, you should try not to get too down on yourself. There are a LOT of mean people in the world, and most of us have encountered someone like that. You're not alone. You should at least be proud of the fact that you aren't one of them!

**** happens, sometimes it's good, sometimes it's bad; most times it's indifferent. So please stop being a door mat to a hot bebe becasue we sdon't give any **** out free and we'll take you for a ride. Good Luck in changing the way life treats you.

You only enable yourself to be used if you let them. I have been treated like you.

I am nice and certain people have walked all over me. Now i only have my true friends and people in my life who i know is genuine. You will be okay, its normal to feel

down when treated like that. Remember you are in control of this situation.