Amazing......

You have to be happy with yourself first, trust in yourself and be content with yourself and then when you are it will seem like no one will leave you alone!
It can be a long road to walk but you could do it!

When you find out, let me know!

Answer is not simple but being in a sexless relationship and being lonley is hard to move away from when your self esteem is so low,can't give up reach out and touch someone

Loneliness is often caused by things like low self-esteem or depression, particularly if it’s not situational (as in you just moved to a new city and still have yet to meet any friends or acquaintances) which by what you are saying is probably not the case. My recommendation would be to speak with a therapist and explore this further.

I'm 52 and I can relate but I still have no answers. I'm not going to give up, though.

If I could answer your questions I would not feel the way I do.Loneliness + depression = suicide.

I battle everyday not only not to feel lonely or let my depression get the best of me, I have to find a reason on a daily basis to continue my existence on this planet.I do not want pity, however I would appreciate understanding.

Lily - I propose that the solution is easier than you might think. Step 1: realize and accept that you are unique and that's not a bad thing. It's a wonderful thing to be different. It is a blessing. Look in the mirror every morning and say aloud, "you good-looking thing don't you ever die." Step 2: aggressively find activities outside of yourself to give part of yourself expecting nothing in return. Exercise to exercise; walk and pick up trash; volunteer at a nursing home, at an animal shelter, at a soup kitchen; find the good in others. Step 3: Refuse to feel sorry for yourself. If you do these things, you will feel better about yourself & if you feel better about yourself, others will want to be with you and you will not be alone. Best wishes. Nolaguy58

I certainly identify with that. My old life is gone but I am still here and still me. I may be a slightly different me. I'm not without scars. Everyone seems to have turned their back to me too. I've "given" and "rescued" till I am empty. I'm not complaining....I would still do that but life has changed and my bucket is empty. My life is depeted or so it seems. I didn't do all I did for reward but it would be nice if somebody had at least tried to add to my bucket as it became empty along the way. As I wrote in the "treading water" group I think?...I'm stuck in the doldroms in my ship of sail on the sea.



As for your questions, I've been asking the same. All have come to mind. A fresh start in a knew place ? Would I just be stuck with the same guy I see in the mirror in a knew place ? I am a good and decent person. Have I lost that belief ? I don't expect perfection but I think the answer for me is "connection". With people. I'm not really too social but I think a real connection with a special person would go a long way. I feel like the last leper in the colony and for the life of me I don't really understand why. I understand some things that happened along the way I could say were not "fair", and some things changed parts of me. Some have been hard for me to accept so how can I expect anybody else to do so, and more. My core belief is ...the need to seperate the truth from lies...mostly in how we believe about ourselves. I've done a lot of work on that. In the end, the truth is, I'm more than a decent human being. So I am still working on the "answers", but for me the "alone" factor seems to be what is killing me....and lack of "connection". Please excuse me as I need to bail water out of my leaky ship and look for signs of wind. I'll keep you posted of any knew answers or ideas, perhaps you will do the same for me.

it's Spiritual that makes it so much easier and gives you a sense of not being a lone where ever you may be,and no matter what circumstance you may find yourself in.

It is hard when the ones you thought would always be there, aren't. You will know when you find that special friend who is there for you all the time. It took me a very long time (38+ yrs.) but i found a true friend. And the best part of it all. Is that I do believe I have found anther. She is half the country away from me. But, I do feel a true friendship starting.

In my case i learn to live with it. Is hard because you fells like you dont belong. and start to keep track what you do why people treat you the way they are and that wiil drive you insane. What i do is keep myself busy on my hobbies and whoever comes my way i let them come in but using precautions because i always afraid to get hurt. I keep the distance for me just a little relation with the other person is better than too much. And about the sexless marriage I try everything to keep the spark on but honestly I just give up i keep treat her like a queen giving her love little details like sexy and lovely txt msg letting her know how beautiful she is everyday but i still getting nothing back but i think one day she will wake up and do something. And i am not on that group because I believe in keeping this stuff to myself. Take care Good luck and God bless you and your loves ones.