Sad Thoughts

I have realized that I will probably not find the right woman ever. It's just not in the cards for me to find a match and loneliness is just something I will have to get used to. I do appreciate being single and having space to myself, but it does get lonely and depressing. It's sad to think about a future of being alone. I try not to dwell on negative thoughts like that, but I don't always win the battle in my head.
baltazar816 baltazar816
31-35, M
13 Responses Aug 4, 2010

I felt if is the one I rather be alone .

I agree.

Don't think like that! Also, I don't think there's a "perfect" anyone. We're all very flawed people, but I do think there is someone out there we can connect with much deeper than with anyone else. The trick is to keep trying and don't give up! I don't know if you remember this, but we had a chat on on ep a year or two ago. You made a great impression. If I knew you or a guy like you in real life I would totally be interested. You just need to get out there and show people who great you are.

just seeing the other's comments proves that you (we) are not the only ones thinking about this.. I also refuse to believe that there will NEVER be someone for me... there IS someone for me and I am someone for him, we just haven't found each other yet either physically or mentally.. but yes.. as you said... we don't always win the battles in our mind -_-;; don't you just hate that..

You, me and many others feel or have felt like this. I one day just stopped thinking about it. I had been in a horrible relationship and was so happy to be alone after I was out of it. I like being single. If it's meant to be, it'll happen. If not, I still have my pets to keep me company.

I agree with startmeup. That is how you feel now because you are lonely. Just because it has been a long time and you have been alone does not mean you are destined for loneliness. There is a lot more to do in life than sit around waiting for the "right one" anyway. I'm not saying ignore your feelings, but don't dwell on things like that. There are ways to enjoy your life until you are settled down and married. Remember that your thoughts shape your reality. Your conscious and subconscious communicate all the time to shape your world. Instead of saying "I am meant to be alone" whenever you look around your empty apartment, say "I will find love. I will have a kind, caring, wonderful woman to help fill the empty space in my home and heart." Don't lose faith, whatever you do. It isn't the end of your life, so you can't say love isn't in the cards. Besides, the right lady is probably out there thinking the same thing you are, you guys just haven't met yet. :)

you still have time. so don't lose faith. maybe there is someone destined for you. <br />
keep on searching and don't give up. if you only wait and do nothing to find love it will pass you by for real..so come on..search, search.

you will feel lonely at times, but it doesn't mean you always will. there's someone for everyone, it's up to us to find them. it won't happen tomorrow, but it will someday my friend. :)

No change your outlook there is someone out there for you and I believe there is more than one women for you. You will not be alone forever but be careful of your thoughts and words regarding that situation because the power of life and death is in the tongue. You have to get out and no I don't mean a club you can meet nice women in the bookstore, at the park, the grocery store, and you can have your friends hook you up but while you are alone start preparing yourself for your next relationship and get rid of any insecurities you have and learn to love yourself. My husband left me 3 months ago and I have been alone since then but I don't think that I will be alone forever I know there is someone else out there for me and trust me when I tell you I am ready for them and as far as my husband it's his loss. So if you have met someone that was mean and rejected you know that it's their loss and you reap what you sow.

I feel lonely as well especially in the evening..

Thank you all for your comments and encouragement.

I understand that feeling all too well. Sorry you're feeling lonely. I hope things turn around soon.

I feel the same. That I'm supposed to accept that I'll never find someone. When people say that there is someone out there for everyone, it always feels like there is a great big 'but' hanging out there .... 'but' not for me. I won't ever find a woman who will love me, and want me to love her, and to be with, and hold, and ... everything. Huh. I've been told that enough times in my life anyway. So. Maybe they have always been right. But really. That kind of life, a life alone like that, physically and emotionaly and sexually alone, isn't a life that I want to live in ...