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What Do You Know About Being Alone?

When someone says they have no friends the generic response is either to say or to assume that they must have somebody.  They say that every suicide will affect at least 6 people.  I can come up with three names, and I do the math constantly, trying to make sure I haven't forgotten anybody.  And two of those three are family, and the third is someone I don't like nor do I willingly associate with.  Pathetic, very.  So, if these other people, who have people, can claim to be lonely, then I must be the epitome of loneliness.  I feel lonely more than I feel alone.  I am comfortable in being alone, solitude is an introverts balm.  but when the phone doesn't ring for weeks at a time, and you've spent every friday and saturday night alone for the past.. at least year and a half.. That is loneliness.  This is loneliness.  So, if you have even one friend then know that you are better off than me.
QuietlyUnspoken QuietlyUnspoken 18-21, F 55 Responses Nov 5, 2006

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Bet You Love to be Thomas Tompion Clock or You Probably Are Goddess Of Time Watching us Mortals Scurry about after our ridiculous pursuits and end up as dust..........while you barely spend a neuron on noticing anything we do.........I wish I could be the Villain to take you out of your cozy nest and chuck out among the Mortals...........Too long have you enjoyed ........NOW its My Turn

everyone is fighting their own battle. i would not say i am better off than you. my story is a long one but i know what you mean… i'm okay doing things alone and i am comfortable in my own skin, yet i being once a joyful person have become a person who is extremely lonely, trapped in an unhappy marriage that i can't get out of. it's hard. knowing how hard it is i've realized, can you really blame those who commit suicide? or even bothering telling someone not to do it, to tell them that it's not worth it. who are we to think that we know what it's like for someone else. i would never tell someone to do it or suggest it, but i wouldn't judge them for it either, or give them false hope that it will get better, because we don't know that.

maybe we can be your friend,but don't you know that u maybe would felt lonely too even we became ur friends,because the persons that you miss is not beside accompany you
why ppl would felt lonely? Maybe is the persons that you miss so much is not beside you and I m sure tis is the main reason why do ppl always felt alone

I know how you feel, I don't mind being alone and yes I have a big family but since my mum died four years ago we all have gone our separate ways, I have no friends, the phone never rings and spending every night alone is sad, Its not easy for me to talk to people because I'm shy and people think I'm not interested so it's easy not to try. Other people will say go out and try harder but that's the point I can not do it but suicide is not the answer, been to that point when I was very depressed and am only just now finding that even talking on a site like this helps a little so just keep telling us how you fell and know it will affect us if you do something stupid my friend

I feel the same sort of abyss inside me.

I know how you feel, I've been there and I still struggle with feeling lonely. I'm always here if you'd ever like to chat; I hope things look up for you. x

Dear QuietlyUnspoken: You may not have friends in this world, you certainly have with Jesus Christ. Pray to Him and ask him to come into your life and save you. Whether you believe or not there is a god in heaven that loves you unconditionally. Please dont feel that you are completely alone. He will be your friend. All you need to do is ask Him. I would also like to be your friend.

Life is hard and sometimes it seems like there is a secret that everyone else knows that you don't. But you have to keep trying. Keep putting yourself out there political groups welcome everyone and maybe you will find a friend. Charaties welcome everyone and after you become a familar face you may become a friend. If you are around people joing in a common goal you stand a better chance then in your room alone where no one can find you and maybe see a kindered soul

<p>Most people are NO different than you. if you choose to be cherry be it if not then dont. friends are what you make them.no big deal. </p>

I don't have any friends either; I do have the 2-3 people who become a little more than acquaintances; who you call once a month or every two months to talk about nothing in particular. But if I am really troubled and want to reach out to someone, there's no one, absolutely NO ONE I can reach out to and there never has been. I am 39. All I can advise is, change this so you have a better life.

Do you wanna change that?

I'll be your friend.

alright peopleee ive lost a bunch of epople but you know what i learned? that people die and people are born aand it seems harsh now but no one has the power o turn back the clock right? if any one did i would quit school and prostitute myself to bring back my loved ones but i cant. its happened. the harsest thing is getting over what happened. i promise. it hasnt been a while for me but it is getting better AND IT WILL GET BETTER. dont kill yourslef. dont do anything. because people do care and when they are dealing with the death of a loved one and you decide to join the club and go with death then it doesnt help anyone. it doesnt help society, your family or your future.. give yourselg a chance. DIVE YOURSELF A GODAMN ******* CHANCE ALRIGHT?you could be bigger than youe ever dreamed of or helping so many people which gives you a godamn contempt concience. do something aight? DO ******* SOMETHING EXCEPT DWELL IN THE PAST. WHEN YOU FALL DOWN YOU GOTTA PICK YOURSELF UP AND EVEN IF YOU THIKN THE WHOLE WORLD IS BITHC ABOUT YOU REMEMBER ME...I WHO WROTE THIS COMMENT! i make up a small but still evident spec of the population of the world and im damn proud soo come on.......dont LEAVE ME dont be unfair...i have to sleep guysss....be there when i wakeup! X

I chose not to have friends anymore, everytime iv'e ever had a friend they've tried manipulating me into going places with them that i don't want to go, and then fallen out with me for it. Manipulating me into giving up my time for them when i just don't want to.. <br />
and because of social anxiety i hate going out places anywhere anyway.. <br />
I'm much happier being in the house on my own, only talking to friends over facebook, and not meeting them..

I am a loner cos i prefer my own company also been hurt a lot by people so tend to put up barriers <br />
i got 3 mates but i neglect em they ring me i am always out to lunch!<br />
why is this i dont feel like mixing i only want to be with my cat or go online and talk to my far away man.....some times i think its fear of getting close to some one <br />
my parents are very dominant ,well my dad is and my mothers cold has a polar bears bum she has no warmth she has no empathy yeah they suck.they are not ideal parents they also dont like having any one around has they are anti social.<br />
I used to be the life and soul of a party but know i am like in my shell and rarely come out maybe im just feeling insecure i just hate people who say to me why dont you go out why dont you ring your mates ?

I have the same problem but I push everyone away

sorry about your loneliness everyone. Please know that you are not alone. Jesus Christ is always with you. Pray to God for help, He loves you and cares for you. God bless you all...

ive had a worst life then many of you here .. but what makes me different is i made an organization to bring peace and if i can get a big enough family in the organization i we can do this im 14 and already felt more pain then anyone in the world

I think that being lonely is a choice. I mean, I often feel like you, that I have no friends, no one that I can hang out with or would want to hang out with. But when I think about it, there are plenty of people that I could hang out with. But I choose not to, because I think that either they wouldn't want to hang out with me, or that I have better things to do. And so I am alone. <br />
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It was the same way growing up. I have always been a quiet person, so no one would really talk to me or befriend me. I think that people have a fear of quiet people. Because no one really knows what they are thinking. Perhaps you just need to speak up, and just throw yourself at others, in the manner of hanging out. The problem with quiet people is that we are always afraid that we are going to be judged by others, so we don't voice our opinions because we think that if we don't have anything important to say to just not say anything at all. We don't want to be laughed at or mocked. So we keep everything to ourselves. And people don't talk to us or try to get to know us because they think we are either boring or don't want to be bothered. <br />
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There's plenty of places you could go to meet people and make friends. This being such a place. You don't have to be lonely. Choose not to be.

Actually, I am not alone. I have my friends who's with me. Often times, I tell them my problems and opinions on something. But, something really bother me. I don't know if I can trust them truly. I'd like to think that it's just my sensitivity which I felt like I was left behind. When I thought of these before it doesn't happen, I realized. But when i'm in my mood that those problems are forgotten, again, this feelings of mine are coming out to cause me stress. So, I really need a big space of being alone just to think of many solutions, problems from and what really bother me. Being alone sometimes really help when you are confused.

know one understand me, got no one to talk to as a true firend. it's sad to be me.

This is so strange...I've thought about that alot myself. I've never actually considered ending my own life but I have pondered just who would be affected if I did. Even right now when I'm at my worst emotionally I don't think I could ever go through with it for several reasons. I'm too big a coward....if I failed I'd be mortified...if I failed I'd probably end up losing my job and with the economy like it is and the fact that I'm over 50 it would be difficult to find another one except maybe a Wal-Mart greeter for minimum wage...<br />
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And yes a few people might be saddened but I can't think of one single person whose world would be shattered. Not even my own son, beyond the fact that he is still somewhat dependent on me financially. As he told me tonight, we have nothing in common and he spends as little time around me as is humanly possible. <br />
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The only people whose life would change because of my suicide are gone. My parents. Other than that, there's no one, at least none that I can think of.

i'm lonely too, and i have a broken heart, which makes the time that i am alone...absolutely miserable. im sitting at home, by myself. i live in a really big city, with lots of really fun things to do, and i choose to lay in bed on a saturday night and listen to sad music and think about how lonely i am. my life "outside looking in" seems picture perfect, and no one has any idea how sad and lonely i really am. i live in a big city, with lots of fun things to do, and so many opputrtunties that i let pass me by- all because of a broken heart. i would give anything to move on from this, i just want to be happy again.

I've spent every Friday and Saturday night alone for the last 19 years. I always feel alone but never feel lonely.

I've spent every Friday and Saturday night alone for the last 19 years. I always feel alone but never feel lonely.

Man, that sucks. Maybe you should get a dog or something. You do realize that you're living a self-fulfilling prophecy, right? <br />
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I know how you feel... though not to your extreme. My closest friends have either moved away or become extremely boring, self-centered people. It only gets worse as you get older, I've found. People become more and more entrenched in their own activites and worldviews and aren't willing to empathise with others. But, there's always my wife and my dog, so I wouldn't say I'm lonely.

you ever do those web quizes where they ask you to name 5 close friends and 1 is who you admire, another is your true love etc.? I can't answer those questions. I have acquaintences, but no close friends. and i show them a 'face'. 40 y/o virgin? that's me. but whatcha gonna do?

I seriously teared up reading this. I consider myself to be pretty lonely as well, having no g/f and few friends. I blame myself somewhat, I tend to avoid people but I still share your pain.<br />
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I wish there was a way they could open a club for all of us who are lonely, in real life, so we could all feel whats its like to have alot of friends.

i can safely say that i do have friends but they're more like so-called friends. people who call me only when they need something from me. people who when i call em up just to talk and ask if we could hang out make it seem that it would be inconvenient for them to hang-out. it's like i'll the least person they want to hang out. it's like you have people around you but you know that you're still lonely coz you can't talk...you can't say anything. even with my family, they don't want to hear that my work is hard...like i have no right to complain of being tired. no one wants to listen but when it's their turn, like i need to listen to them and help them. it's tiring. is it me? why am i surrounded by people who don't really care.

Try gettng out in the world and meeting people by volunteering !<br />
There are many causes that might be of interest to you,and you could help the world be a better place.<br />
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make new friends<br />
and keep the old<br />
one is silver<br />
the other is gold.<br />
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Good luck.

"u can in the company of friends & never felt more lonely.<br />
coz alone u r alone in your thoughts, thoughts of pain & despair & desolation."<br />
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...that is so true. I'm going through a point in my life, where I do have people around but my thought process has been so out of whack, no one understands & it can def lead to loneliness..there's always that burden over my shoulder, that I think about constantly.

mmmm, I understand being lonely. I'm a single mom of an almost 3 yr old (february), and most of the time it's just me and her. Until recently there wasn't anyone who called to see how my day was. I felt like if I disappeared, no one would notice save my boss - and of course my daughter. It felt like there was no point to being here. I couldn't understand what the purpose was to being here. There was no joy, only obligation. But she's a little older now and I've managed to find 3 friends that check on me regularly. They all have kids - single parents too in fact. And they all felt the same way I did. It took me a year and a half of being totally alone to find them. People kept telling me I wasn't trying - that I was creating my own lonliness. I wanted so smack them. I was trying - it just wasn't working. And eventually, it found me. So I hope that it finds you too.

I agree. Feeling alone can even be a blessing, but loneliness is a whole different ball game. My friends make me feel more lonely when they are present because they cannot understand what I am going through, so it makes me question the depth of our friendship. I want to meet new people, make friends that I have more in common with than I presently lack with my friends

Hey, Goingcrazy, I hear you. I've been where you are - figuratively, and literally. I've lived in NYC, ( the island - east side ), and don't get me wrong - it's an AWSOME place to "hang your hat" - but there's nothing like that city, to just make you feel lonely as ****. I think there's something very paradoxical, about being around so many people, the almost deafening cacophony of the city, and all that crazy 24/7 energy, that makes people feel very alone at times. ( It IS possible to feel alone, even in a crowd! ) This is hard time of year, as well, for many people. I think if you went to a support group, ( most are free and open to the public ), you would be very pleasantly surprised. Most folks "in group" are not by nature, judgmental, or discriminating. Besides, if you don't want to talk - that's cool - they're not going to push you. You can just sit and listen. If you want to speak with a professional counselor, most insurance plans, by law, now include "mental health benefits", as well. Also, many therapists will agree to work on a "sliding fee scale". Check around. <br />
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In case you don't know, EP is a great place to meet people, that are going through some of the same things you are. It's free, anonymous, and there's something for everybody. Between my work schedule, and life responsibilities, I find it very hard to make and keep friends. I also have a neurological disorder that sometimes puts people off. Before I found EP, I used to feel very alone sometimes. All my EP friends are great; I don't know what I'd do without them. I'm not much, but you have a friend in me, if you need it, and I'm sure that there are others who will reach out to you, as well. You're not as alone as you think you are. (((( HUG ))))

you know something, I feel for everyone who has posted something on here.. weither or not you have someone; ie: family, friends, girl friend or boy friend,or even a ******* shrink; loneliness, feeling of having no were to turn for help is ******* horrible..<br />
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But i do think it is easy when you have absolutely no one. when you have no one, then you have some direction as to where or who you can find talk to, because at that point you dont feel bad that you have put yourself, your feeling, and life to side to attend to their problems.when you have no one then obligations to anyone one but yourself anf your problems. you dont have to concider anyones feels or life. but what when you have family, friends, girlfriend, boyfriend or a obligation to someone, and still you feel lonely. Like you have no one to talk to, no one to turn to when **** in your life turns confusing and u feel like you have lost yourself, when you cant turn to family, friends girl friend, boyfriend or those you have an obligation to. what then, where do you turn for some kind of help or guidence when you can't afford a shrink and to embrassed or frightened to turn to your so called loved ones. can't go to meetings because you feel that other people have it worst than you and need the help more than you do..what do you do when your whole life and problems have been left at the curb because you spent all your time making sure that your friends, family and loved one successed and passed their thru their problems in life. Making sure that they never feel the way you do.<br />
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What do you do? please someone give me something, anything to make feel like i dont have turn drugs, putting a bullet in my head. well really dont think ill put a bullet in my head. But serisouly does anyone have any ideas. the loneliness and depression is really ******* me up, along with my business and relationships with the loved ones. I really want to stop turning to drugs for my answers and the feeling of not caring what happens. I want feel like everything will be okay, get a re-assurance, once in awhile, that my future isn't full of drugs, loneliness and other peoples problems

you know something, I feel for everyone who has posted something on here.. weither or not you have someone; ie: family, friends, girl friend or boy friend,or even a ******* shrink; loneliness, feeling of having no were to turn for help is ******* horrible..<br />
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But i do think it is easy when you have absolutely no one. when you have no one, then you have some direction as to where or who you can find talk to, because at that point you dont feel bad that you have put yourself, your feeling, and life to side to attend to their problems.when you have no one then obligations to anyone one but yourself anf your problems. you dont have to concider anyones feels or life. but what when you have family, friends, girlfriend, boyfriend or a obligation to someone, and still you feel lonely. Like you have no one to talk to, no one to turn to when **** in your life turns confusing and u feel like you have lost yourself, when you cant turn to family, friends girl friend, boyfriend or those you have an obligation to. what then, where do you turn for some kind of help or guidence when you can't afford a shrink and to embrassed or frightened to turn to your so called loved ones. can't go to meetings because you feel that other people have it worst than you and need the help more than you do..what do you do when your whole life and problems have been left at the curb because you spent all your time making sure that your friends, family and loved one successed and passed their thru their problems in life. Making sure that they never feel the way you do.<br />
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What do you do? please someone give me something, anything to make feel like i dont have turn drugs, putting a bullet in my head. well really dont think ill put a bullet in my head. But serisouly does anyone have any ideas. the loneliness and depression is really ******* me up, along with my business and relationships with the loved ones. I really want to stop turning to drugs for my answers and the feeling of not caring what happens. I want feel like everything will be okay, get a re-assurance, once in awhile, that my future isn't full of drugs, loneliness and other peoples problems

Yeah doesn't that just **** you off? A lot of people have excuses for why they can't go out, make friends, etc, (like for instance they are disabled) but many don't. Many people just hate their lives because they don't have the balls to do anything about it, and they know this, and this makes them hate their lives even more. Then there are others who do (continually) push forward and try to make their life better, more interesting, etc, but they just keep screwing everything up. I don't know which category you're in, but none is one anyone wants to be in.<br />
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Most "loners" need their personal spacetime, but I think they're the ones who suffer worst when their lives are empty.

When my ex died, there were people at his funeral from 20 years of business and life, but he always felt alone. Maybe it is a two way street, making time for those around us and looking proactively for others. I think we're all lonely at times, but the courage to search for new friends will be rewarded.

Joseph Z;<br />
I am a minister, and I can tell you that God doesn't hate any of God's creations; don't let anyone tell you that. What they are saying is that they hate, and they look to God for justification. It's just not true.<br />
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I lost my best friend, my exhusband (who was a dear friend) and my romantic partner all within the last year. I have wonderful colleagues and a great congregation, but the nagging loneliness of losing my romantic partner is perhaps the most hurtful. We were starting a practice together, and while I've been trying to find someone new, it's just not happening. I guess time will heal and open new doors......

Yea, I can understand. I have a bit of an unusual problem though... Even though I am always very busy, ( I own my own business ), and know TONS of people - there are very few, ( only two - and one I am married to, and the other, is serving a life-sentence for murder in a maximum security, federal penitentiary ), that I can truly call "life friends". Most of my family has passed on, and I'm an only child. I am also a "transplant" to the area where we live. I can honestly say, if it weren't for my husband, I would have no one , that I could truly rely on, in the case of an emergency! ( That kind of freaks me out, a little sometimes. )

i read most of the comments posted. it made me realise that depression or loneliness is self-induced. from the analogy that one can be lonely even in a crowded room.<br />
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i was wondering is there a skill that we havent been taught. this has to be lesson of human survival. if civilazation started of in groups, then we need some sort of support structure. <br />
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i guess in the midst of seeming fake in acting in a certain way to become someones friend is risk that some would take and others not...i guess this can be solved in other ways. one of which is changing ones own thinking. <br />
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I guess taking small steps at a time would help.

I am replying to ghosts remarks of sept 24, 07. My parents had ten children. They started out as remarkable parents and in the lat 60's kinda fell down on the job to put it mildly--they were led astray by their church and then encouraged us to take drugs, have sex when we were still children (NOT WITH them, of course) etc. etc. The list of things THEY should be in jail for goes on & on. YET ALL THE while folks on our white middle class suburb THOUGHT they were like OZZIE & harriet...My Mom told me at a young age I was her favorite and treated me like "the golden child and when I was older she treated me like a confidante and would tell me what new dumb thing my Dad was know doing to her..etc. etc. I THOUGHT all my life my parents were wonderful and most of my life was the one who saw them the most and defended their behavior to my other siblings. Finally both my parents died. First my Mom at age 79 then my Dad a few yrs later age 80 something. NOW I realize how much harm they did to me and us, my 9 other siblings. ITS MUCH EASIER now to see the scars and repurcussions of what they "TAUGHT us". Here's my short list 1. DO NOT respect AUTHORITy ( you can't imagine how this affects my relationships with bosses 2. Its ok to date men and be alone with men when you are only 15 3. Its ok to take drugs (THIS WAS never a problem for me) as i had a boyfriend more conventional than my parents who kept me away from that. NOW I realize how EVIL they both became and DO NOT IDEALIZE them LIKE I did when they were both alive..DEAR GHOSTS of SEPT 24th post--please wake up...Parents are supposed to LOVE you enough to EMPOWER you and let you have wings and NOT A LIFETIME Prison sentence. I hate my MOm my telling me its ok to be a failure in life, JUST DON"T ever think of leaving her (emotionally or psychologically) SHE ACTUALLy tried to prevent me from marrying , but I eloped and called her/them the next day..

I wouldn't consider myself to have any friends. My best friend and I aren't close anymore as I made all of the wrong choices in life and he the right. I stay at home each and everyday as i am unemployed, my parents have nothing to say to me, and i would like to talk to a counsellor but feel that i can not trust them as i live in a small town and everyone gossips. I hate my very existence and everything that i am. I dont want to hurt my parents by killing myself but believe that in a way would be doing them a favor. Im 27 and dont think ill see 28 - i havent accomplished much in my life until this point and cant seem to put the past behind me. <br />
So if you think you have it bad try walking a mile in my shoes.

Please count me as your friend! I'm lonely too. When a relationship doesn't work out a man won't be my friend ever. When I ask a man to be my friend, he gets upset, sometimes ask me to marry them (happened 3 times in this last year)...I wrote that I want someone who can be a friend in my ad. The man I like/love the best is hot and cold and needs a lot of space. He said he hates clingy women. So you are not alone. Girlfriends? The women my age in the supermarket that I frequent. I had to let my 15 year friendship go. She said she doesn't believe there are good men on the internet....but that is my biggest hope. I don't want a friend who categorizes people......good friends are hard to find.

JosephZ, AH is right.<br />
The bible also says that you cannot touch a woman who is on her period, or if a man has a wet dream, he has to go off into the woods for seven days, or some **** like that. It also tells the Israelites to kill everyone except the virgin girls and make sexual slaves of them (the Midianites). The bible is NOT a reliable testimony to what "God" really is. It is just a bunch of violence until the new testament...and if you are really attatched to the idea of Christianity...then just read the words in RED, Jesus's words.<br />
Please, accept yourself. Jesus does.

Well, I can relate to the young lady who is disabled. I too am disabled and I live alone. My only company is my dog and my computer. I am alone 24/7 as I have no friends. As a matter of fact these past few days I am seriously thinking of giving up.<br />
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I know God hates me and that's the worse part of it all. I read the Bible a lot but I know He hates me. I am so scared. I don't want to go to hell. I have lived in hell my whole life.<br />
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The only people I see are my doctors and nurses. Everybody hates me because I'm gay. I have not been with anybody for 12 years.<br />
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I just asked some guys on a forum how can I know if God hates me, but nobody answered me. I don't know if I'll get an answer or not. I sent a private note to one man, the only one I trust and asked him if he would answer me. He told me that he is very busy and he will try to write me something tomorrow. So, I don't think he really cares either.<br />
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The Bible says that even before they were born, God loved Jacob and hated Esau. I was a twin and my twin was born dead. That is my proof that he hates me. He took my brother to be with him and he put me here to suffer by myself.<br />
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The Bible says I am an abomination because I'm gay. And I hate myself because I'm gay. I have hated myself my whole life. And I know God has always hated me too. Since I was a little kid, when I go to bed I cry and I beg him to let me die, but I always wake up the next moring. Then, I get angry with Him because I have to do it all over again.<br />
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I don't watch TV. I don't like it. I try to read, but I just can't seem to focus much anymore.<br />
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I am like the Tin Man because I don't have a heart. It was taken away from me. I was beat my entire childhood, I was a sex slave my entire childhood. It didn't stop until I was 17 and the only reason it stopped was beause I tried to kill myself. I have tried many times over the years, the last time was in 2003. I get so angry, the doctor's know I don't want to live, so why do they do everything they can to bring me back. It's just not fair. I don't want to be here. I just want somebody to stop the world so I can get off.

Please mingle with people. Find a club or a religious organization and mingle because it's obvious they are not going to come to you. If you live in a large city, there are groups that enjoy astronomy and ghost stories just to name a few. <br />
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Be sure to dress nicely, and get a Penny's catalog if you don't know how. If you feel you are depressed and not just a little sad, people may not respond to you in a positive way. Go to your medical Dr. if you feel this is an issue. People give off vibes when they have been rejected that continues to make them be rejected. This becomes their self-fulfilling-prophecy. <br />
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Good Luck, and remember don't keep doing the same thing if it isn't working. Don't be afraid of change. Think of what you try to do to make friends as an experiment, and move on to your next hypothesis if the current doesn't work. You were put here to do something great; don't give up now.

Hi friend, as someone, whose father committed suicide when I was 4 years old, I can agree totally with what u say! The family politic is that I was the youngest of 4 children and the others, being in their teens blame my mum for the suicide. However, as I've lived with my mum the longest, I know she wasn't to blame but have been hung out to dry for standing in her defence! Mum has looked after me for the longest time, and never asked for re-payment or blamed me on the fact that she never re-married, although I know she gave up a lot for me! I now have ME/CFS, Diabetes and Depression, but she has been there for me, so why shouldn't I be there for her when I can? As a result, I have lost friends, partners and family due to my devotion to mum! Might sound soppy, but she gave up everything to care for me in my younger days, now it's my turn! I owe her!

I completely agree with what you said! People use the phrase "I don't have any friends" much too loosely. people think they have no one, but when it comes down to it, they do have people who love and care about them. I LITERALLY HAVE NO ONE!!! NOT ONE SINGLE FRIEND. NO FAMILY EITHER. I spend EVERYDAY all alone watching TV by myself. I'm disabled so I don't even collegues. I'm isolated in my house alone all day, everyday. I can't even drive to go anywhere! too bad...I want to drive off a cliff. How pathetic am I????

Hi I am new to this, but I know how it feels to be lonely too. If I didn't have an 11 year old to take care of I really don't know what I would do. He is the only reason I even get out. But never the less, he is in school all day, and goes out to play alot. This is a very hard existance. I am also a "loner", I guess, only because I feel more comfortable by myself, but it is a very lonely existence.

I went through a period of being exteremly lonely and dpressed.Ihad no friend or family and i was deeply unhappy, and basically i just wanted to die. Im quite creative and i always fancied the idea ofmakingmy own clothes, so i went to a short college course.I got on well with everyone there, and it really boosted my confidence.I stopped working in the ****** job that i had before and now im running my own business.If i hadnt of plucked up the coursge to go to that college course, i would probably still feel the way i felt then now. Dont be scred to start new things, youve got so much to gain from it. You need to do things that will make you happy, and look after yourself inside and out, and have respect for yourself. Strike up conversations with people at bus stops, ask them loads and loads of questions (most people like nothing better than to talk about themselves), smile a lot, and give off a happy vibe. Im sure that you are a great person. Love yourself.

u can in the company of friends & never felt more lonely.<br />
coz alone u r alone in your thoughts, thoughts of pain & despair & desolation.

Loneliness is when there's no one to share good news with or to find a shoulder to cry on. I hate loneliness, it makes me cranky and when I feel like that, I'll just log on my game and punch some ppl. Then I'll send a msg to my sis and start chatting.

Maybe go to places to meet new friends. Sports such as bowling, golf, etc. Get involved with a group somehow. You will be surprised how easy it is to meet new people

I also have no friends. When I try to contact people that I think I want to be friends with, they are too busy to be anything to do with me. Those that are accessible and become known better I come to feel have some kind of boring quality that makes them a non starter. I don't know whether I am being sensitively critical or insensitively critical of them. There was one person who I thought was a friend but after 2 years sudenly attacked me with terrible accusations when I had been nothing but polite. I concluded that this person was a junky for rows, I remember them telling me about several other bust ups that they had had with close friends. I feel that I want to communicate, with people outside my home and family, its a sort of way of validating my existance, but I do understand that being alone can feel good.