Lonely By Choice, But Far From What I Want.

Hi, I'm new here. Well, after constantly deleting like 5000 different things in an effort to make this post, i have decided that whatever comes out from now on is going to be what i put up.

Here is my life situation, it has been like this for a number of years, and i am losing hope each and every day that this continues.

I'm lonely. I feel no deeper connection with anyone else. The only people in the world who i trust 100% are my parents and brother. However, my parents any brother, no matter how hard they try, just can't understand me.

I NEED to talk to someone who is like me. Who understands me, at least 50%. I know that there is no perfect friend or significant other, but I am having trouble staying positive when i feel no connection with every person i come into contact with. It seems to me that my "friends" have their own agenda and we only interact in order to pass the time or to "have fun".


I'm single, and attribute this to the fact that i'm extremely picky with women. I suppose i am picky with who i confide in also (friend-wise), but i believe this is the best way to be since it's very important to surround yourself with people who "lift you up" rather than bring you down.

I'm not quite sure where to go next with this.....I'm a nice guy, people would say i'm likable, it's just i feel different than everyone else. I just want to talk to somebody, anybody who shares how i feel. PM me, respond to this, whatever..... do i need to be listing more about myself so others can possibly identify with me? If so please feel free to let me know if you have any suggestions on how i can possibly better connect with people here, so others have a better understanding of what i am trying to convey.


I truly hope this makes sense. Thanks in advance to all who took the time to read this.


dddexter dddexter
18-21, M
5 Responses Apr 6, 2008

Reading this in 2013... Any improvements with your life? Found that connection? :)

Thanks a TON to everyone for their input. I feel ten times better today thanks partially to everyone's responses. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to post their 2 pennies. If any of you ever need to talk to someone, don't hesitate to PM me.

Hi I really like to find friends. I met a man who liked me but it didn't work out. He had a list he told me she must be between 26 ro 33 that was the only thing I got right he told me could not have been married. Never had a serious relationship could have no children. I told him I had the perfect woman for him. There was good news and bad news. Which did he want first I asked. Good news he replied. I had the perfect woman for him. that was the good news. The bad news is she dosen't want him at thirty if she hasn't been married or had a relationship with a man she was well. you know what I mean. My brother wants someone in his life he wants to be married but he wants a guarantee it will work out. I told him life gives no guarantee's . He is still alone. I hope that you will find happiness.

dddexter -<br />
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We are really all alone in this world, anyway; and there's really NOBODY one can trust 100% - not even family!<br />
You are really looking for yourSelf - Who You Really Are - the Essential Being inside you. When you become established in that, in self-honesty and self-trust, you will never be lonely again; but on the other hand, other people will probably understand yu even less than they do now, since nearly everyone operates from points of DIShonesty and mental-emotional programming that suppress the Essential Self. Bon voyage in your search!

There is nothing wrong with being picky. You want to make sure you have the right woman before you share your whole life story with that person. Same goes with friends. I pretty much stay to myself because i really don't have time to deal with silly people. I have a few associates that are alrweady getting on my nerves. Long story. All i can say is do what makes you happy. Don't get depressed because you can't connect with anyone. Besides, if your around people who bring you down, then you are better off doing something that makes you happy to lift you up. It's called family.