With Someone and Still Alone

I live with my boyfriend and most of the time I am very lonely, I was married for 20 years and felt like that and promised myself I would never feel that way again, Id rather be alone than be with someone and be lonely!! But here I am doing it again!!
silkyangel silkyangel
41-45, F
7 Responses Mar 28, 2007

It is because they do not share your most important interests. But, can you still love them. Men want to be the center of attention like a child...but some don't like to be stared at, just waited on. Trust me, I was with a man who made me feel alone, but I didn't know what true loneliness was until well it's been 12 years now since I divorced him. There were so many problems in the marriage, but this loneliness is a killer.

I have been in a very sad relationship for about 5 years. He never thinks about me. Last weekend, he wanted to go gambling. I told him I didn't want to go as I do not gamble. He insisted. We went and when we got there he put me in a hotel room and left. Came back around 5 in the morning and slept for a couple of hours and then went out to breakfast without me. I had to take myself out. He has always treated me this way and I want to leave but I don't know where or how to do it. He never thinks about me and never kisses me, not even once.

Hi,<br />
I'm living with my disabled wife. She spends most of her time in bed. We have been drifting apart for years. She is chronicly ill and all I can do is sit and watch her suffer in pain everyday. We kiss each other goodnight and say our "I love you's". When she is feels upto it we go shopping or just out of the house. When she wants me to spend time with her its laying in bed watching sitcoms, they are her favorite program, I hate sicoms but I'll wacth them with her what else can I do?

Hi,<br />
I am living with current boyfriend. I have been depressed for two years and I keep trying to share things with boyfriend and am met with silence. This makes me more depressed. Now I am trying to figure out how to be happy without his emotional support. It is too much work. We even laugh about it sometimes. I will say something and then say "Now this is what you are suppose to say" We laugh about it, but I am still frustrated. All my life I have been trying to find a close emotional relationship. To be my friend, companion. I can be that to him. Is it a guy thing. I know that some guys can get into the emotional stuff. It is frustrating.

Hi, I really relate to your experience. I had a partner (who I recently broke up with) who has difficulty expressing or relating to emotions. I could tell him how I felt and I would be met with silence. It was awful now that we have broken up I can look back at it and see it for what it was - but before we had broken up I was spending too much energy trying to convince myself that everything was good to realise what was going on. I'm lonely still and trying to rebuild a happy single life then maybe I wont be lonely in a relationship again. I wish you all the best in your journey through life.

I truly understand what you are saying. For reason I don't understand people do not think that you can be with someone and be lonely. Truth be told I can be in a rom filled with people and still be lonely. Have you talk to him about it. Maybe if you try to explain that to him things can possibly change. Feeling alone and lonely is not a good way to feel. Sometime talking can help...

That is sooo crazy! I was just talking about my mate in similar reference a bit ago. And as my part of fault I added I'm "doing it again" because as humans we are stubborn, and creatures of habit!! Weird, huh??