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Everyone thinks my life is so grand based of my looks ... NO !! it really isn't .. DAY TO DAY I'm alone .. I'm the only child .. trying to something with my life .. NONE of my friends are real .. they always end up stabbing me in the back .. I've been physically abused by my ex .. and everyday he mentally ***** with my brain .. its ignoring .. My mother is always busy with work.. My father passed.. I'm just lonely I have no one on this earth that absoutle cares for me ..and it hurts ... to know that your not loved .. or never will be ..
sewiinxo sewiinxo 18-21, F 70 Responses Jan 16, 2013

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try to get protective shield first by changing your own ability into capability.uptil then do not bother about anything you come across. it may be knowledge,art,or hobby

i totally understand you, and I feel the same since my boyfriend passed away...
Sames, based on my looks, outfits,... everyone thinks my life is perfect, but it's just not... many of my friends turned into frenemies and i feel so alone and I'm so done with everything

When we get to know someone closely, we totally ignore their appearance as we who we are dealing with. It is important we get too know one before we make important decisions in relationships. We fall in love for the wrong reasons perhaps.
I hope you find help so that you can discuss your issues perhaps you mum or a close family friend/relative.

Looks will never bring happiness, as you know, and people are terribly callous to suggest that. I'm sure your mother loves you. I am an only child with an only child. I would want my daughter to come to me if she was sad. Talk to your mom. If your ex/boyfriend is mean to you, cut off contact. You will be happier for it, trust me.

id love to be friends as soon as we get past how hot you are

I am sorry to read this about you pain and being alone,I think that in time you will find some real friends that will not stab you in the back.At least I hope so people these days can be mean and hateful for no reason at.I guess it is cause they are treated bad at home.I hope things do get better for you.

never is a long time sewiinxo... be open to the opportunity... be ready even to pursue the special chance!

hey, im sorry to say life sucks a lot of the time for most of us, but its up to us to make the most of it, youve not been having a great time and feel like crap, something we can all relate to, but learning how to deal with it and forging your own path through life is something we all have to do ourselves, sorry theres no shortcuts, dont get me wrong you have my sympathy. but my sympathy alone is not going to solve things for u.
be true to yourself, get on and do the things you want to and it will come soon enough, mix with like minded people , and one day you may just look back at how your feeling now and see it as part of your life not the whole of your life. good luck

If your friends are not real that is not your problem. If your ex abused you then he or she is the one who is wrong what you did with him or her was when you were in love and when one is in love all the actions done by them are never wrong so do not ever feel guilty.
Everyone on this planet is alone and always will be alone you my love do not need anyone to keep yourself happy and since you have had an ex you will find anyone if not someone to keep yourself entertained and happy so not worry about that and if true love is what you seel adopt a stray animal and love it and feed it it will love you and that love will be true.

No matter what phase of life we're in, or what has happened to us in the past, the only person that can give us true comfort, hope, courage and joy is Jesus - not the perfect spouse or the perfect career, or the perfect life - even if there was such a thing. So I encourage you to let Jesus into your life and you will see that no matter what you face in life, Jesus will always stay by your side as a friend who sticks by you closer than a brother. God bless you girl :)

I guess life's big secret is that we all feel alone. We all feel insecure when we are alone in the dark. I think sometimes just doing something to help someone can make you feel so much better - a tourist lost staring at their map on the street. Being unselfish can be such a good thing. Lets in a little light that brightens you up from the inside. Reading your story made me care for you so much. I bet I am not the only one!

u arent lonely. i can talk to u hours and help u . u are loved or u will be . im ur true friend. ok ? my skype id: mohammadmahdi14
love to see u laughing

i m also having this prob can we share our pain


who we are , and how we carry ourselves on the outside can mismatch, how we look however is an even poorer description for who you are. Fashion is one thing, carrying yourself with pride in a garbage bad can still beat fashion just because you radiate how good you feel. Most people are clueless about this and you've had to experience snap judgement based on nothing. This will always be true in gets easier if you surround yourself with people that are not so blinded, and help those you already like to understand you, if they can't well your call, if they can, nothing lost.

To know you will never be loved? That's a broken heart of a desperate soul speaking. You deserve to be loved just like everyone else, give yourself the time you need to find and recover yourself before you chase love again.....I sure as hell needed it when I jumped out of a terrible relationship myself. I felt just like that, despair, everything was just worthless and pointless. Just promise yourself you set a future and go there to look at the horizon again in a year or a few years. You'd be surprised how much things can change...and let's be honest.....getting worse is less likely isn't it?

u just nid new friends, and i mean not the obvious ...lighten up there r gud people out there u just nid find them :)

let me be your freind then even if its just online. you dnt need fake pple in your life.

hey dont let urself go down... u just work hard nd focus on career ... nd wait for sum tym everything ll be fine....

Baby don't let yourself go down that dark path of despair, you can get into all kinds of things to make you feel better about yourself, what are things Don't worry about love, it will find you when you least expect it too...I could offer you what you need but you are in a fragile state and now is not the time to bring it up, you wanna talk? let me know!

Psalms : when my father or my mother forsake me the Lord will take me up!
Jesus is a faithful friend who will never leave us or forsake us,...

Don't be overwhelm with this zeal of loneliness,to be lonely is good but not to large extent.In my own world of things,i prefer to be known to myself rather than putting my trust in shallow friend.

Well, I do feel lonely too. And yes i agree that if we share our problems with our close friends, let it out, makes us feel better.

I'm sorry, your still young, things will get better for you

I feel the same way. I am fortunate enough to have my mom, but thats about it. I have never been able to identify with anyone and I feel like an afterthought, almost to the point where if I died, nobody would even notice or care that I'm gone. Hope you are able to connect with someone sometime soon because if you feel like I think you feel, than it takes away the purpose of even living.

Good lord I couldent agree with you more I have no real friends and have a bad outlook on making any real new friends what am I to do

Everyone has their own problems. Try to pity 'everyone' who provides criticism based on your appearance. They don't realise the specifics of your life and your problems and will concoct some baseless image in their mind of how it must be. For them you are complaining about problems that they couldn't believe they could possibly have if they looked that good...

One day you might find someone who loves you, but you know what, its not guaranteed, you are not entitled to anything, and people have to work what they get in life. you aren't entitled to being loved or wanted or anything. Sorry, but its true. Be grateful you are pretty enough that this work is easy for you...

Your mother is throwing herself into work because she can't deal with you? Confront her about it, resolve the problem... or learn to become independent from her.

You are finding your ex is a *****? Cut him off completely and don't be afraid to resort to violence - big strong men are suddenly very weak when you are twisting the ears off of their head or tearing their noses off. If he attacks you, as the woman, you are well within your rights to fight dirty and give him serious, even crippling injuries... I envy your humanity that you can bear to not kill such a man.

You are finding it hard to meet genuine people? Stop judging people by their appearances, try and meet more men - generally they are too socially inept for backstabbing etc. also you can find a pool of guys for dating this way. men don't have the same problems around this that women do...

good luck.

You must live another day then another....If you keep on entertaining this in your mind, you could ruin your life. You have had a bad experience, but, it does not have to dictate to you who you are going to be, and how you react in the future, if you let it go, forgive yourself, and start to heal inside.

I always hate to hear stories like this... I'm an only child too so I'm no stranger to loneliness, but you just have to find a way to fill that void every now and then. I know how it feels to be abused by people you think care about you, but you know what? You can't let that get to you. Hate to sound like that "sticks and stones" guy, but it's kinda true. You just have to live every day without worries or fears. Just enjoy your life, do things you want to do. Be yourself... and you'll find that you may have more real friends than you'd think. If you're anything like me, the more time you spend thinking about stuff like this, the worse you'll feel. So get out there! We're not all bad people... You're definitely not alone

Look, we all got problems. Everyone feels lonely. The point is you have to learn to be comfortable alone before you can be happy with anyone (even just friends).

I agree!

I feel the exact same way!!! my ex also abused me and continues to mess around with my head and my feelings the only thing that stopped were the physical beatings since i moved. I have hope though that there is someone for everyone and one day we will all be loved including me and you!

sad that there are so many people out there that are abused as well as abusers. It really makes me sick that neither of you was treated properly. But I am glad you are both away from scum like that.

by the way might you add me to your circle??? If not I understand. :) hope you start feeling better there are people that care about you just for the fact your a human being.

Join one of the many dating sites out there and just get out to meet people etc. Just be careful about where you meet them etc. Strike up a conversation first etc. and get a feel for who they are before going to meet them.

I am glad he is your x. Since that means you got away from a person that is not good for you. I am also sure if you asked your mother would be there for you and if she is just to busy. There are plenty of activities to get into that should allow you to meet decent people.

Judging by the response, you can see that a lot of people identify with the way you feel. I like to think this is a good community where you can meet like minded souls. There is plenty of support about on here. For instance, I find reading stories to be quite therapeutic.

I would like to respond in a manner that I do know how you are feeling, I do feel the same type of feelings. I am sorry to hear that you have experienced physical abuse I have had my own experiences that related mental/psychological and at times physical abuse. Which was based on a bad relationship. I go through each day pressing on with my interests holding on to what matters, but seeming its not enough.

we can be friends :)

I think it would be great for you to make a new start in life and focus on you, get rid of anything and anyone in your way. Join something new and express yourself through art or music, poetry. Throw your self out there and remember your as good as anyone. It is sad though that beautiful people can be alone, but you still have to meet all the other beautiful people out there and only young lady.

I completely get how it feels to be mentally ****** with in the way your ex has been doing to you.
By sharing how you feel here, it shows that you have support (as I have read through some replies) and people who care.
If you need to talk, I'm here. Just send me a message any time. I'll always get back to you.

You are never alone, there must be someone. Friend, a relative, someone?Please feel better.

How is it in a world of so many people that we can still end up feeling lonely? I just don't I understand it but I feel it every day.

Don't say you will never be loved. You have to give to receive. Choose your friends carefully. Yes you could get used because of your looks. Do you have any hobbies? find people that enjoy what you like. Don't dive into relationships too fast. Your mom may be busy, but plan something to do with herDon't forget to tell her you love her.

You are never alone! There's always someone willing to be there for you.

If you eer want or need to talk, I'm here for you. Add me?

You are always loved by someone, no matter what you think. Might I suggest paying closer attention to the people who DO love you rather than dwelling on the ones who don't. Those who don't are not worth your time. When your mom is not busy, focus on mending your relationship with her. Suggest fun mother daughter activities. Going on walks with my mother always releases any tension and allows time to just talk. Best of luck sweetheart! :)

Me too, I know how you feel and I am nearly thirty years old, you;'re still young time is still on your side. My time is running out!! I was abused by an ex as well. I fancy a guy who probably wouldn't look twice at me. My life is cr*p as well. Really cr*p!!

I know how you feel

Yes loneliness can creep up anytime, I feel lonely lots, feel like it is hard to open up to people just knowing they go an talk about you anyway. I can tell you though, the Lord allows every circumstance that comes our way each day for a purpose. I would say as the Bible says, Draw night to Him, and He willl draw nigh to you, He says He is a friend that will be closer than a brother, He will never leave you or forsake you, He is always there for you, no busy signal with Him. Call upon the name of the Lord, and I believe you will have much peace from this anxiety... God bless...

Maybe you can find someone to care about you here? I'm so absolutely sorry those horrible things have happened to you. I'll be your friend :)

Your story was so sad :c In spirit your not alone. I'm sure one day someone will come into your life. I have problem with talking making communication such a struggle to get my point across . I hope you find the good in your life to keep you up. I love you

I can't say that i under stand all of your hurt and being alone.I do feel that one day once you get older and wiser you you find that some that will love you just for you and nothing more or less.

I will be ur friend I may not be great but just know people do love u !! try and get REAL FRIENDS and if u cant I will be here :p *hugs*

Next time you should say, "I will be ur friend I AM** great!" :D


I'm only child too... And just like you, I've felt lonely. I don't have many friends, and the few that I have are not golden. However, I have my mom there and she is the greatest. My grandmother is also great and my dad is good too. Even though my family is small, I've learned to appreciate it for what it is and the people in it. You should, too. Somewhere in your life someone cares. Yu just have to find them.

I'm sorry 4ur loss, but ur on the rite path of recognizing that u do want more in life,n not getting what u want. Stay true 2 ur self n it will all work out. But don't except the abuse.

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it is sad to know that you are the only person in this world's a very sad feeling..i have went through it ...but let me tell you it's after that i find great happiness what i do is ...wait suffer it patiently..:) pray that's what i do...maybe you should try doing it..share it with someone whom you believe in ..i do with god gives me comfort to know that he is there,,,i'm sure you will fiund the way..don't worry we all are her for you ..:)

You will find your way, young lady. Many people go through similar feelings from time to time where it feels as though there is no end in sight. Being patient, and happy within yourself will open you up to the potential of attracting nice/positive people into your life.

All the best to you!

dont feel that way because there is always someone out there willing to be friends who have a great personality, and treats others the RIGHT way. As for me, i might have chosen the wrong friends, but now i am in the process of choosing who my real friends are and who i choose to be friends with from now on. i understand your loneliness. I dont speak to my family, the one girl i loved is with someone else. My friends arn't really my friends!! But thats fine bc when i do decide to reach out again, it wont be for the wrong ppl.

everything happens for a reason. good days give you memories and bad days give you experience. happiness and sadness are like seasons- they come and go... this truth is as old as time itself..

I know exactly what you mean... I have experienced the same things, but I have lost both parents, some years ago. I would assume ,also, if I hadn't read this, that you would have lots of friends. If you get this message, I will be happy to help in any way I can. I am intelligent and caring - I thought I had 'friends' before but I didn't..

Don't say you'll never be loved. You are way too young for that. Being lonely sucks in the moment but in the long run if you can keep the right attitude we all become deeper more independent people for it. Don't focus now on whether you are loved, but instead work at making yourself more interesting. Figure out what you want from life and think about how you can attain it. It may be now that nobody in your circle even deserves you, but as you become a more compelling person someone will show up to sweep you off your feet. And it doesn't hurt that you are beautiful. In the long run you will be glad for that too.

Sometimes I feel the same, but then I remember God is always here for me. I know. I know you can't see him but look outside at the trees and the sun and you'll see his work. Talk to him throughout your day and he'll respond in his own way. Just know when the world seems preoccupied and no one appears to be there, God is there for you.

no matter what you're getting or not getting from the outside world, you have to always remember to love yourself :) Best wishes!

Would you life to be my friend

Same story here....They think, if you are good looking, life is easy for you and you have all the happiness in the world.......

But its not that way..You just need to be sheer LUCKY to have all those blessings.

Girls never let any man or any other human to abuse you any are not worthy of that....close them off your life and see the world around you ...there is still people that care for are some of us.

love will find a way to you, just keep on looking

Never think you are not loved because that's not true. We all go through different phrases in life. Oneday when you meet the right person you will see how precious you are. Some parents thought that working out and bringing in money in the house is the best way to show their child affection, but this is not always so. Communication brings love and home without communication is a nest of loneliness.

Jesus loves you and I love you. So you are loved by two right now. Seriously I recommend volunteering at a shelter or community center. Give your love and you will receive tenfold back.

I guess I am as guilty as anyone. We all think of how people are judged if they have a disability or are obese, but we judge good looking people too. I look at pretty girl and assume a stereotype just like I would anyone else. I am sorry, but think of it this way, all those same things would be wrong with you life even if you were ugly, but you're not, so you got that going for you.

Try to volunteer some help outside the community. Helping gives you the sense of happiness and true fulfillment in life. And of course, always remember to think positive. Negativity attracts negative people and situations.

you are right with that... yeahp. being a pessimist is no good to me.

don't worry, just smile ok? :) don't give up. don't let that burden took you whole. - An advice from a No Life Dude - :)