Is She Asking Too Much?

My ex and I split up about 3 months ago after being together for two years, and it has been really hard on me.  I still love her more than anything in the world.  We still talk everyday and were still hanging out together on the weekends.  To me it was almost like we were dating again.

Two days ago she dropped a bomb on me.  She said that she was going to try to get back with her EX-Husband whom she hadn't seen in three years, but that I was her best friend, and that she wanted all of us to be friends. 

Is this even feasable?

Here is where it gets really complicated.  She has two kids with this guy.  I met her when the youngest was only 10 months old, and the oldest was 3 years old.  They know me as dad.  The oldest remembers his real dad a bit, but hasn't talked with him in about a year.  To me those are my children, and she has told her EX that, and that I would still stay a large part of their lives.

I don't know how this is going to work out for me, as I am still very much in love with her, and he has, in the past treated them like s#!t.  Is being friends with this guy and her even within the realm of possiblilty.  Who knows,  I guess we will find out.
bigchuck1397 bigchuck1397
26-30, M
7 Responses Jun 13, 2007

try 8 years ib a relationship with a girl you stil cant move on from, thats how i am right now, ive lost so much weight, i dont eat properl aymore, just takeout, i dont care about much anymore and ive lost spark for life and motivation for anything....somedays i just want to curl up and die.........<br />
<br />
I still love thid womn, she wont take my calls or emails or txt<br />
<br />
I feel such a loseer as a man and a person because i wasnt ready for marriage at the time or to move it up and get a house with her etc......now i do, its too late<br />
<br />
<br />
i want her and need her....this is just too hard for me right now, i hate this loneliness i feel everyday

I hope your ex- wasn't your "best" friend as well... and you have no other support or outside friends. Yikes, I'm describing me!! Anyway, it's always tough with children involved, and I have a friend who's living with the reprecussions from getting close to his ex's child to this very day. :-( Good luck to you.

I have been there, done that, as a female though. All it does is make you lonlier because you are not #1 in her life. Be good to yourself and find someone who thinks you are the best thing since sliced bread. That is the only way you will ever be happy again. And what might happen, while you aren't looking, you will start liking yourself.

Or, you can last it out - wait for the "lust" phase to peter out - pun intended. But, my experience has been - the best cure for a broken love affair is a new one.

Wow this woman is one mean *****. The fact that she wants you to remain in her life while she plays happy families with her ex is outrageous. She has no regard for your feelings, you cannot allow her to treat you like this and make no mistake she is only thinking of herself. Best thing to do here is tell her that you simply cannot be friends with someone you have strong feelings for and belive me sooner or later she will shut you out for good and you will be hurt all over again. Cut all ties with this women, she is no good for you and cannot be part of your future. Be strong and cut all ties with her it will hurt like hell at first but when you meet someone who actually deserves you you will see that it was all worth it.

H-m-m-m-m Thats nae a easy rooad to walk is it pal? The children are innocent and if it was me and I have been there, I sued for visiting rights for children that were not mine and she capulayted ie stipulated , but as far as the "friendship thing" I'd keep that at arms distance, write it off as a painful learning experiance and actively seek out women who attract you! Don't be in love with the pain.<br />
Good Luck on ya search,<br />
Theres good gals out there tis just a matter of finding one !<br />
Dx

Yes, She does know that I still Love her. I tell her everyday. I tell her that I love her, and that I will always love her. She always says to me that she loves me just that she's not in love with me.