My Trust Issues

I can't seem to trust anybody.  My friends from school are the best candidates, but I still get paranoid sometimes.  It's always really silly paranoid thoughts too.  For example, "is my best friend somehow conspiring with his girlfriend, my parents, and my other best friend to get me?"

I don't know how I come up with these ideas since my friends have never done anything bad.  And I feel to stupid to ask them if they're all part of a big conspiracy out to get me (I did ask once).

Trusting my family is pretty much out of the question, since they've lied to me for as long as I can remember.  Plus, I'm in college now.

Does anybody have any advice for me?

premiumchicken premiumchicken
18-21, M
2 Responses Jan 5, 2009

Paranoia... even mild paranoia... is a form of delusion. Belive me, you don't want to entertain it. If you do, it can get way out of control, and nobody will be able to pull you out of it... because you won't trust them.<br />
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The best practice is to distrust paranoia itself. If it seems to spooky to be true, it probably is. Get in the habit of debunking such thoughts. There's always a "rational" explanation."

It comes from within yourself - we get what we think we deserve from people. Often if we act suspicious we attract people who lie or decieve. It is tough to trust people - its extremly brave to reach out and share something of yourself - it makes you vunerable and thats really hard to do. Ep is a good place to practise opening up and getting reactions and support. But if your friends having given you any real reason to doubt them - maybe you just need to take a deep breath and a risk. And if it fails, well then, at least you know the truth about them. But I hope, you will be pleasantly surprised :)