Will It Ever Cease???

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Peaceness and Love Mystic

Hey man.,

I feel what you are saying. Me i am lonely 2. It all started when something very very traumatizing happened to me in my own family. I didnt get raped but what i saw is so bad that i feel kinda raped.

Before that i had a lot of friends and i was very popular at school. ( i was 15 then) . After i seen this i became very anti social, i sitted alone in school yart and didsnt greet people anymore. now 10 years later i am all by myself. my family dont talk to me no more i dont have friends and not 1 girl looks or want to to talk to me. Im not bad looking.

I dont want to be like this. i want to be happy and have a normal life like everybody else. i want to laugh with people and everythign.

I cant do it. its so bad that sometimes i ask God to take my life away. Im so tired of it.

Sometimes being alone within a group of people is the most painful. I am in a wheelchair and below most peoples line of vision. I feel like I don't exist. Sometimes I wonder if I do. But you seem to know that you have a place in this world. When you go out go to a group or a church where someone will ask your name and interact with you. You don't need to isolate yourself. Bipolar is now more understood. There a groups where you could connect with other people who know how you feel. If you are on track with your meds and not abusing drugs or booze you can find a friend. It only takes one to make the difference. Don't waste your life. You could find happiness out there somewhere. Two can dance as beautifully as one.

The pitfall of finding someone to end up your loneliness is that you will unconsciously expect from this person to meet ALL of your needs. And as you say they run very deep. And you will expect from him/her to compensate for all the time you had been alone. It is too much to ask from just ONE person. And you will lose him. And will feel even worse than before you have met him. I have been there.

The key is to find out why you do not want to be with people. Because it is so, right? You lack trust in people? And there is a pretty solid reason for it?

So go buy yourself a punching bag - a big one, of those which doesn't "fight back" :) And start taking all your emotions out on it . Just you and the bag - no going out, no people, no talking. Just kick it, punch it, or hug it and cry - take it all out.

I do it. And I started to feel differently. Less lonely ( paradox, but true), more open, more like in tune with the world. And now I want to go out, to talk, to meet people - I am feeling like a part of the world again. Not entirely, because I started it recently. But it is surprisingly effective solution. I hope it will help you too.

PLEASE can people stop saying they want to die. You only get one life so live it. If you are a nice sweet person, one day people WILL notice that. I promise. I can't promise it will be soon but it will happen. Cus no-one deserves to be alone. Just don't waste your life, who cares what people think about you just live your life how you want to and forfill all your dreams, don't let other people bring you down. They will come round, one day. :)

thats the worst of loneliness, you're not antisocial yet you're alone, i recomend you to start seeing someone who you believe have feelings for you( friendship or romantic) going out with someone will aid you and i bet you know that person

There are groups known as "Meet Ups". For every kind of interest, hobby, and age range. They're located all over the country. You can usually find many near where you live. Go to www.meetup.com and check them out. There's bound to be a meetup group you would like to join, or you can start one yourself. I found out about Meet Up groups while searching online oneday, as I suffer from loneliness too. You can try a group out to see if you feel comfortable with them. After that, you can join the group - most only cost $5 a year! The only thing you have to do is show up - and if you decide the group is not for you, there is no commitment. You will meet others who show up for the first time too, so you often won't be the only newbie in the group. You mention you love dancing. There are dancing groups! You can complete a very quick and simple checklist of your interests and Meet Up will instantly bring up groups that meet your interests. Please try it out. As you can see, there are thousands of people who feel lonely, just like you. You are not alone!! And remember, YOU ARE LOVED.

Im alone. I know i always will be. Its a terrible kold cascading over my shoulder down my side and through my toes kind of feeling. I feel pain and sadness everyday of every second of my fruitless simple lost attempt at life

Well, nothing is nicer than dying. After you wil have died to yourself as an ego, then you will be made dance with the universal music by the universal intelligence and love which is moving the all. Do not fear to die!

i also want to die.... but it's too god damn hard to commit suicide. suffering in silence is much easier don't you think?

While my story is different, I too ended up here. I hide in my house. If you want to reach out for support, I can listen.

Yes. I understand. There are others who feel the same way

i feel the same.. i feel weird and unnatural when i am with people.. most people take for granted the social , family aspects of their lives but for some of us even the simplest interaction can be satisfying ... i feel like am looking into a window and standing outside in the cold when everyone else is tucking into a sumptuous meal .... i hate facebook when people post the simplest things they have done with others like just popping to the local pub or a sunday lunch at their mothers etc etc my life is devoid of even those simple things :-( so i make the most of every interaction with others that i can if that makes me seem sad then hell so be it... i love my sadness and eccentricity sometimes x

There is nothing wrong with being alone. Just sometime, some of us need more human contact than others. It is ok to have friends that are not too clinging so you can just call put and meet up and have fun with. Some of us like to have a more constant presence of another while some might feel it is too much that you can't breathe. All we need is learn to find our comfort zone and don't let others persuade us to be someone we are not able to be. Some of us maybe afraid to get hurt or use by others so we preferred to stay alone. Life is full of choices. Choices are like a game you play. You don't know what the out comes of things until time unfold it after we made the choice. Live life. Life is not perfect but it is an adventure like a book and you're the writer of your book. Live.

I feel the exact same way. I don't like to get out of the house much. I'm tired of having to "fit in" in order to be accepted. I'm tired of having to find witty remarks and having to perform up to par in order to win the conditional affection of people.

There is nothing wrong with you my friend. You are perfect just as you are. We are all different and I think people haven't fully grasped that concept.

Keep being you, keep being true to your feelings and emotions and way of expression....

I admire you.

I read this and I realze maybe me liking to be by myself is just a defense mechanism because I feel the same way. I feel best dancing and singing by myself, or like i'm by myself. I feel like I love being alone but then am so lonely. Idk I just wish I had Someone who could roll with my crazy and like me anyway. I feel like we need people to like us more than normal people do.

I know this sounds kind of cliche, and it is not a total solution, but when I feel so hurt and lonley inside, I try to find someone to give tt. When I volunteer at a homeless shelter I feel more connected and I see that there are good things in my life.......and the other volunteers there tend to be kind souls that I can talk to also.

Hey, I feel you. I have the same problem as we speak. I do enjoy solitude. I want to be connected to another human being but I fear intimacy. I need to learn to love myself unconditionally, because that is my biggest barrier. Good luck hun! You inspire me :)

Hello I am a 34 year old guy that is single and I am bipolar to and I was wondering if we could be friends

Like i couldve written it myself - you just described me. im sorry, this is a sad way to exist - enjoying that momentary rush in between all the lonely. i hope things get better for you

I do exactly the same thing. Except I have never camped by myself before. I have bipolar, and suffer in my room silently too, occassionally going out for drugs and music. Have you ever thought of suicide?

Do you keep to yourself because you enjoy solitude or do you dislike the games people play?

I could cry for you I know you I see you in the mirror I'm sorry for you and me. I really don't mind being alone I really kind of like it till I don't

I'm very lonely too - I'm unemployed and I spend so much time on my own in the day I feel I could scream. I do know people, but I only really talk to them on the phone at night. Added to this, I met a guy recently who I really liked. I saw him about 4 times and I've texted him since and he's not replied and not phoned. I feel rejected and when I was with him I felt happy - I loved his sense of humour! I'm so sad about this. I used to see my best friend a lot in the daytime, but now her boyfriend is a bit jealous of our friendship and I hardly see her. Yeah, life sucks at times!

Oh man I love to go out with my friends and hang out with them, but as the years went by, and they all got in to relationships and got married and found better paying jobs I don't see much of them anymore. I miss the touch of a loving hand, and the joys of having someone love you for who you are. I have been so lonely for so long. It hurts so bad to know I will die alone. In fact I forgot what love is, I just know how to hurt. Oh well I still got a passport and some cash on me so when I get sick of this life I can leave and see what the rest of this world has to offer. Keep looking for your Joy

i am envious of your ability to enjoy things alone. i cannot do that. it just reminds me even more of my loneliness. i've lost so much weight it's unreal. and i'm still losing. i eat like a horse at night and wake up 3 lbs. lighter. i'm lethargic and tired. all i wanna do is cry. i used to be the opposite. i was a disc jockey here years ago and was the front person for the shows we did. i could really get the crowd going and could take over a room in just a few minutes. now, i'm the total opposite. i got nothing to talk about with anyone cause i have nothing going on in my life but being a custodian! i think my brain is shot. i feel like all the different meds i've tried have messed with my brain chemistry forever! i'm so scared of my future or lack of one. i wish you well. at least you're able to get out there and enjoy things by yourself. i envy you.

Oh , i do the same thing and still lonely. Sometimes i think im crazy

i applaud you for going out to a club on your own. every time i've tried something like that the results have been disappointing. its good for you.

You sound so much like me that it's scary. And I really do mean that -- it was frightening to read since I can relate so much to what you're describing. I'm not really sure what we can do about it. As with everything we ultimately we put ourselves in this situation, no matter how bad it feels to realize that, and we are the only ones that can drag ourselves out of it, perhaps with some help from friends but there really aren't any to have a serious discussion with.



Telling you ‘good luck’ won't really do any good, so I'll instead say that you can feel free to message me if you ever should feel like doing so. I'm absolutely certain it can get better, it's just the road to get there that is a little difficult to follow.



I wish you well,



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