Thanks for the Confirmation, Ladies.

Well, if you've read my previous story you'd know I am a lonely man.  So, I tried a dating website.  Mind you, this is not my first time at this or any other dating site.  The results have been the same every time.  Quit and walked away feeling worse than when I started.

I don't know what it is about me.  I know I am not an ugly man, but no matter how I approach things I still get rejection and the cold shoulder.  I try the sweet, nice guy approach, the way I truly am: I get nothing.  I try NOT being myself, more of the "hey, nothing bothers me 'cause I got it goin' on" approach: again, nothing. 

Perhaps it may in part be due to my pictures.  They are not of me skydiving above a lake of crocodiles in Timbuktu with lifelong chums or bungee jumping in the North Pole with Pamela Anderson look-alikes.   I don't have this exciting life filled with Kodak moments captured ever so thoroughly on film.  As much as I would like to do all of these things,  my lack of companionship and camaraderie inhibit me quite a bit.  The pictures are just of me.  Usually a decent, carefully chosen headshot.

Deny it all you want, members of the female gender, but your modus operandi for male selection is not as noble and insightful as you make the ignorant believe.  You are programmed, just like the male stereotype, to select with your eyes, not with your "hearts", as you so self-righteously claim. 

 

Possible factors:

  • I do not have this exciting backdrop filled with the promise of endless adventures and fun as far as the eye can see; it's just plain me. 
  • My profile clearly states I am 5'-6".  There's no point in being deceitful about that. 
  • My competition rarely wears a complete outfit.  Abs-and-pecks-a-plenty.  And here I thought that kind of scantily clad tactic was utilized strictly by the female (?).  Boy, was I wrong.  I am a humble man.  I won't stoop to such superficial methods.
  • I am honest. 

    I am truly a nice guy.  My intentions are honorable and noble.  I am generous and kind, funny and intelligent.  And, despite my lack of billboard-esque life shots on Mount Everest, I do enjoy the little things in life and have fun.  Isn't that all you ladies want???  That's what you claim. 

    Well, regardless, I have retreated from this latest attempt at online dating with my tail between my legs and yet another defeat to do wonders on my self-esteem.  You girls can be so cruel sometimes.  Each time I have tried, you have proven this to me.  Get off of your self-constructed moral and ethical pedestal.  You are no better than the men that give men like me a bad name.  Oh, if I had it in me to be a womanizer.  Trust me, I would be.  But it is not in me.

      As meanspirited as this tirade may sound, I am not a mean person.  I am a good man that sees things as they truly are and wipes the rainbows, lollipops and unicorns from the windshield.  I am speaking truth.  The truth as I see it.  Don't blame me for having the above views, blame your sisters.  I, too, still have faith that love and a happy relationship may perhaps be out there, but reality continuously smacks me in the forehead. 

  • Bruno Bruno
    26-30, M
    8 Responses Jul 31, 2007

    You do sound like a very intelligent guy. You are correct that women "select with their eyes". But we all do really. And yes, some women can be cruel. But some can also be, in my opinion, the most wonderful people in the world. Don't give up so easily. I agree with revamp that true love does find a way, and you will know it when you find it like a "smack in the forehead". Also, if you want those Kodak moments, go get them. Do not let a lack of companionship be a hindrance. I have a single friend that takes a bike trip to places around the globe each summer, by himself. He always has great pictures and experiences to share when he returns. Who knows, maybe you'll find a companion on one of you own trips if you so dare. Keep the faith, brother. BTW, love your avatar!

    Thanks for telling it as it is. You sound to inteligent to lower yourself to cattle market type competition. I wouldnt bother with online dating, leave the neanderthal's to beat it out between themselves and the ladies to their fate.<br />
    True love finds a way ( I think ). If your looking for anything less then you will find a lot of company among the neanderthal's.<br />
    There are thousands of ladies out there (believe it or not) who are waiting for someone like you, and the encounter will happen. Naturaly is better. (not manipulated).

    Various people have various reasons for their lonliness... for me..i found creating fantasy n building it togather with someone like minded guy brings pleasure in life.... it makes me have hot dream ... it helps me relax in many ways ( hey..i m little ashamed to say all na )<br />
    i found chating is annoying..u cant think fast n make ur line n type and read n enjoy all in one go is stupid... email is the only way i enjoyd.<br />
    cu<br />
    nilo

    Hi, I just want to say that you made me gaffaw laughter out loud (if thats a valid statement) when you said "like i got it going on". I guess because it has personal significance to me in that thats how I describe being like that.<br />
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    Also the long and short of things sometimes is that "when you define others you define yourself", well at least, perhaps thats why some of those female wouldnt pick you because they see their own flaw. Sorry I'm not very good at commenting but thats mine.

    Hi, I just want to say that you made me gaffaw laughter out loud (if thats a valid statement) when you said "like i got it going on". I guess because it has personal significance to me in that thats how I describe being like that.<br />
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    Also the long and short of things sometimes is that "when you define others you define yourself", well at least, perhaps thats why some of those female wouldnt pick you because they see their own flaw. Sorry I'm not very good at commenting but thats mine.

    I agree with the above poster, join a club centered around your interests. Also, don't group all women together because we are not all lying to the ignorant. I am one that will tell someone straight out that I am about looks first, you do not have to be GORGEOUS but it helps to have something nice to look at. That being said, most women or at least some women, will not say this because they do not want to hurt someone's feelings, they would rather use the cold shoulder. <br />
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    I hope you find what you are looking for and online may not be the place but neither are the clubs! Well, bars! LOL

    Online dating doesn't work for everyone, and singles bars aren't where you are going to find the type of girls you sound like you are looking for. Join some clubs centered around your interests, and see what comes up there. It's a less superficial start to the relationship in any case.

    THere you have it! Next time tell Jane, You Tarzan, She Now Yours, club her over the head, and drag her by the hair to the nearest cave! She'll love ya FOREVER! =}