I am 35 and I married a man 12 yrs older. We have come to realize that we do not have much in common after two yrs of marriage. He has moved to another state due to work and I am here... by myself. My marriage is unsteady, logistically challenged and I am having a hard time now and days pulling myself out of bed.  It's been 3 months and not getting better... which is why I searched for a site such as this...

howdidigethere howdidigethere
36-40, F
5 Responses Feb 9, 2009

Wow, now being 37 and in the same boat I am kinda excited to say that I decided to move on... life's too short, right?

It happens, try to relive the moments which brought you closer and if that dosent help than moving on can be the second best option.<br />
Keep me posted about the progress.

Yes, thank you... I work in the medical field and know these things. I am optimistic in getting over the hump on my own... I am also a native Texan so I will get to the point where I am angry and will plow forward and not look back... maybe.... eventually :) Possibly... I quess I don't really want a pity party I just welcome the support that I have experienced so far. Thanks

Life is too short to waste it in a relationship that is basically non-existent. Move on and find happiness for yourself.

Sorry to hear about your situation. I would advise you if you don't think there is a chance to fix this relationship, then it is time to move on. Don't stay in a relationship because you are scared to take the next step. Life is too short to waste your time being unhappy.