Acceptance

I have been sad most of my life FOR GOOD REASONS.

I had and still have serious issues,but I have come to terms with my lonioness ETC. I have worked on all my problems, and I AM CONTENT NOW.

oh yes being apart of this group is giving so much to me, on my journey.

 

Bluebird

Bluebird777 Bluebird777
70+, F
5 Responses Feb 13, 2009

NOW THAT"S THE SPIRIT !!!!!

YOU ARE SO RIGHT, ONE DOES NOT HAVE TO BE LONELY, BUT YOU HAVE TO MAKE THE EFFORT TO FIND WHAT YOU NEED TO RISE ABOVE YOUR LONIONESS..<br />
I USUALLY MAKE 1 STEPT FORWARD, 2 BACKWARDS, I AM ON MY WAY TO RISING ABOVE YET AGAIN..<br />
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WE ARE HERE FOR EACH OTHER<br />
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BLUEBIRD

You know you don't have to be alone. You just need to invest in some personal growth. Go out and find something that your slightly interested it, and do it. Force yourself to meet and talk with people, and start a regular pattern. Every tuesday go climb at an indoor climbing gym. Talk to people while you are there, ask them why they do what they do, and you may feel a tug in your gut to tell them that your lonely. Hold on that. As a general rule I don't tell people my problems till they've hung around at my house a few times. It's not great, but it's an easy distinction between Acquaintance, and Friend. Friends come and visit. But, friendships start with little things, take the hoby a bit farther, see if they would join you in trying out a different climbing gym. Grab a bite to eat after. (climbing gym is an example...but stick to your interests, and try to avoid talking about the hard things) after all going out with friends is supposed to be a distraction from (the hard things). Also, remember, it's easy to go overboard, don't be buying people stuff, and don't reck your credit just to keep up with your friends. Friends understand when you've hit your limit, and will tend to cater to your limit. If they don't well then maybe they are not yet at the friend status just yet. Either way, don't give up. I was the "Wierd" kid in highschool. I did not have many "True Friends". It wasn't till I found a group of people with similar interests that I felt comfortable around people. No matter where I went i always felt among people, but not one of them. It's been over 10 years since college and I've finaly have a job where I am "Among them and feel a part of them" But I have to admit, In those 10 years, I didn't try very hard to find friends. This is where I help you to not make the same mistake. No matter how different you feel you are there is someone out there with similar interests (not issues). Focus on what distracts you from the hard stuff, what is FUN. I know this is kinda all over the board, and some of it or all of it may not apply to you, but I hope it helps if even just a littlel.

i ALSO HAVE TO HAVE THE TV ON AT ALL TIMES UNLESS I AM ON THE PC.

I hate being alone. I grew up with a brother, and we were always together. When he graduated from H.S. he joined the military. This drove me nutz. I went to college, and I couldn't concentrate on H.W. unless my dorm door was wide open, the TV on, and then I could focus. I guess I needed the constant noise to con my subconcious. It wasn't till my senior year that I could finaly sit in a quite room by myself and study. I hate being alone.