Alone After 20 Years

I was married for 20 years and the divorce was final several months ago.  I was dating for a while and then some old boyfriend showed up and that was the end of that.  Funny how you find yourself at 42, divorced and all alone.  I did not plan my life out this way.  You THINK you find someone and you are going to spend the rest of your life with them...but...it does not work out that way and as you sit in the living room that has so many memories of love and happiness you find yourself contemplating what it is you could have changed years ago that could have made this not happen. 

bagpiper bagpiper
41-45
2 Responses Feb 20, 2009

i too am 42 an was married 17 years .i thought it was forever.i feel now that i had a good marriage .but that nature played a part in it.there was an age gap.kids late in life.an also we fell out of love.i feel this happens to many many marraiges.some choose to stay together some couples do not.looking back now we both feel we did all we could towards the end.there is no right or wrong way to be or stay married.maybe nature didnt intend for us to stay with the same mate for ever.an becasue we are brought up to beleive we will is why so many of us get let down.im of the view now.im single im happy.if i meet someone i do,if i dont i dont.i dont look back to much just forward.an i will never tell myself anything in this life is forever because its not true really.x

that is a great story thanks