Even Family Leaves Eventually...

I'm the youngest of six, so you can imagine how hard it would be to accept the fact that your brothers and sister before you are just going to be gone for almost the rest of your life. My sister moved up to New York to be closer to school, my brother is a drug attic who still lives with us, my brother after him is in Iraq fighting the good fight, my brother after him has his new family with his wife and son to keep him occupied, and my brother right before me is also joining up with the armed forces. I just can't help but feel that I'm the only one that's not really moving or going anywhere and since my bro's and sis we're basically some of my best friends this has led me to feel lonely and sometimes depressed. My sister sugests I take some time off work to reconnect with friends and get in touch with the ouside world.


What do you think?

hazah69 hazah69
5 Responses Feb 25, 2009

I think your sister is right. I also think it is normal to feel loss when you have so many siblings go there own way. Doesn't mean they love you any less or miss you any less. Keep in touch with them best as you can and remember your parents are there with you I agree it can make you closer they to are feeling it as there children grow and leave...<br />
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Both my parents have passed, my siblings stopped speaking to me shortly after my mother passed, it is not the same but the feeling lonely is there just the same. For me there is no one to really turn to, no parents no siblings.<br />
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Reconnect with your friends they can be a big help they are friends :)

Treat it as a growing phase that will only help you to grow stronger and become more important. I think staying connected with friends is essential :)

Thank you all, your concerns really help =)

Have you ever watched the movie "Little Women"? It might be a bit therapeutic for you. Making friends would be good, but the bonds of siblings will most likely outlast, or be closer than any friendships you make. I am the youngest of 8 and at 54 with the oldest at 71 I find friendships have passed, but via the phone my connections with siblings has lasted. I was quite lonely when the sister just older than myself got married ( I was 14 at the time) But I was very close with my mother who is 97 now.... so don't shortchange your parents... (as far as friendships) they will not always be with you either.

Life changes. I was the youngest girl of 7 siblings and I have a brother that is 9 years younger than me. I remember when I was married, my little brother called me and asked me when he was coming to live with me. He and I were very close and I had to explain to him that he had to stay with our parents. <br />
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You will get use to it and you may even get to know your parents better.